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I am almost sure it's because I am on the Pill. TriNessa. The week that I am taking the placebo pills, I am in the mood a lot more than usual, but obviously can't do a whole heck of a lot about it.

Anyways, I'm usually up to doing sexual things, even intercourse, when I am at school. But NEVER at his parent's house, regardless of the fact that whatever we are doing only occurs in his bedroom. I am afraid of getting caught. Usually, my intuition is right and if I have a bad feeling about messing around and/or having intercourse, he gets very upset, but then 5 minutes later we hear the garage door go up, so we're always glad we didn't put ourselves in the position to have to rush around to find clothes. But the problem is, I don't even feel like kissing him sometimes. My sex drive was ON FIRE before I got on the Pill. It's not that I'm not attracted to him anymore, it's not that I feel incompatable, or uncomfortable with having sex with him. It's just that I can't get "in" the mood.

What's up with that? Are there different pills that may change this for me?

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Hormonal birth control can definitely be a libido-killer (and it sounds like the worry about getting caught is certainly not adding to things). I'd definitely recommend that you speak to your doctor or gynecologist about switching pill prescriptions to see if it's just this particular prescription that's giving you this problem, or if it's a reaction you have to hormonal birth control in general. It can take some time to find a pill prescription that fits best for you, but it can be worth it in the end if you feel hormonal birth control is a good option for you.

If it ends up that you're really not finding a pill that fits, or you don't want to go through the hassle, it'd also be a good idea to speak to your boyfriend about the possibility of other, non-hormonal methods, such as condom use on its own, or pairing condoms with another method.

Just to toss it out there, too, in case more of the libido-issue is coming from current circumstances, worry, etc. do you think you'd find it helpful to be able to talk to someone like a counselor or therapist?

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No, it's nothing like a "current circumstance" that's making me like this. I'm pretty in tune with my emotions, and I would already be at a therapist if I thought that was the issue. I realized about 2 or 3 months after going on BC that I was beginning to get this way. But it's getting worse. I am happy, definately NOT depressed, very in love, nearly engaged...everything is fine. My libido is just half dead most of the time. [Frown] Guess it's time to find a new pill...
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