does the guy need to wear a condom while having oral sex? like to make it more interesting like getting flavored ones? my boyfriend doesnt think its nessecary to wear one during oral, i havent given him oral yet but i think i'd rather he wore one. so should he? (he has agreed to but i just would really like to know) and also he has already given me oral the "all natural way", was that wrong or should we have used something? a couple other things, would it be in our best interest if we use lube for our first time and other times? (note: we are also keeping our sexual life a major secret from our parents, so we want things as convinent as possible!) so just about everything we do has to be like quick prep time and clean up time, if you know what i mean.
and also, is it really a high chance i will bleed alot on our first time? (i heard that wearing tampons and being fingered somehow helps so that there is less bleeding, is that true?)
Have you both been tested twice 6 months apart and were both STIs free ? If not, then it's best, if any of you don't want to end up with an STI, to use a condom when you perform oral sex on him. And if you'd rather have him wear one, then he most definatly should. Have you discussed this yet with him ? If not,it might be a good idea to do just that.
As for when your partner performs oral sex on you, a dental dam (which can be made out of a condom) would be best here too if you both as I said haven't been tested for STIs. STI testing btw is something I both strongly suggest you go get if you haven't already.
(You can definatly get flavored condoms btw if you'd like although those aren't intended for sexual intercourse (because they can lead to infection) so if you intend to have intercourse after, then you'd have to change to non-flavored condoms before having intercourse.)
Water-based lube really is a big plus when it come to sex, be it first time or not, so that's definatly a good idea to use it. It makes things much more smoother.
Not all women will experience bleeding on first-time sex, some might but it shouldn't be any big amount (nothing that looks like your period !) when that happens. And it's worth remembering that vaginal bleeding can occur at any time be it first time or not. It can be caused by a lot of things : microtearing to the hymen, microtearing to the vaginal lining, lack of lubrication, etc. and it is generally not something to worry much about unless it goes on for more than a couple of days (like more than 2 days or so).
Wearing tampons and having been fingered before having first-time intercourse doesn't have much to do with whether or not a girl will bleed since bleeding when it happens can be due to a whole lot of different things as I explained above.
Here's some useful articles I suggest you and your partner take a look at:
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