I've never considered myself a nervous or self-concious person, and I've always thought that I was fairly well-educated when it came to sex in all forms - not only partially thanks to this site - but the other day I got a scare.
I've recently got myself a new boyfriend (we started going out around xmas) and about five days ago we decided to finally do the deed. Now, I had noticed that he was a size or two larger than my last - he's a big guy all round, let's just leave it there - but I didn't think it would matter much. A vagina's elastic, right?
Well, we nuded up and put on all the necessary accoutrements. But then when he actually started to move inside of me, IT HURT. Like worse than if it was my first time. He was just way too big.
We've broken up now. He was a nice guy about it, didn't push or anything, but I was too freaked out. I guess I dumped him. I hope he's okay.
But anyway, even now I'm shaken. So what I want to know is, from all those smarter than me out there, how can you tell?
How can you judge how well a guy's gonna fit before your eyes wind up being bigger than what counts and you wind up really thinking of re-assessing everything you thought you knew about yourself?
-------------------- "I'm bouncing off the walls again, woah-oh~ I'm acting like a fool again, woah-oh~ Threw away my reputation, For one more song on the RADIO STATION~" Posts: 29 | From: England | Registered: Jun 2007
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You cannot tell anything about a person's genital appearance without looking at their genitals.
Sure, if a guy has a hard-on while wearing pants, you can get an idea then, but that's really the only way to even be able to guess. How thick or thin, tall or short, what race, what size feet or hands a person has... nothing like this is an indicator.
But too, it's very likely that that pain you experiences was due at least in part to being freaked out: anxiety tends to keep a lid on full arousal. So, rather than worry that you'll have a male partner with a larger penis than you're used to, it might be helpful to just know that pretty much any size is workable, so long as you can be relaxed about it, get aroused, your partner is gradual and gentle, etc.
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