my boyfriend told me he was 9 when he was hard and 11 when soft. but when i put my hands down his pants for they first time it felt more lyk 6(when hard)... and then i still asked him after that if he was really 11, and he said "o, no im 10 inches hard." should i ask him about it? or just leave it? i mean its still a good size, but i dont like that he lied to me about it.
Posts: 83 | From: plano,texas,us | Registered: Nov 2004
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Next time how about you try this: "I don't care what size you are, and since I'm not making you pants, I don't need a measurement."
Really, no man is likely to be 11 inches long flaccid, even the man with the largest penis on record. Moreover, when flaccid, the penis is ALWAYS smaller than when erect, not the other way round.
Very few men have ten inch erections, and really? There is no such things as a "good size." Not when it comes to heterosexual intercourse -- bear in mind that the back half of the vaginal canal doesn't feel much of anything and to boot, the vaginal canal itself tends not to be more than five or six inches long when a woman is aroused -- and not when it comes to much else. They still aren't passing out awards for penis size, last I checked.
So your best bet? Penis size craziness is as silly and useless as carziness about breast size. People do lie, and really, I wouldn't make an issue out of it because the whole business is just that stupid, and their untruths are generally not meant to deceive so much as cover up their own worry and insecurity about what YOU think. Instead, for everyone's benefit, I'd suggest simply making clear that you've no interest in what size a penis is, regardless.
It's also a sign of insecurity, you know. He's not happy about his penis, so he lied. Reasure him and tell him that you don't care and will love him anyway."It's not the size mate, it's how you use it". Besides, having such a huge penis won't help anyone, it can really hurt a lot of people, especially people without much sexual experience.
Posts: 105 | From: Australia | Registered: Nov 2004
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(Bear in mind, actually, that the "how you use it" line is also not always empowering either. The size of any person's genitals is FINE, even if they NEVER "use them" for partnered sex, and even if sometimes their partner is NOT satisfied with what those genitals are or are not doing, or they don't have a partner at all.
So, while I know that line is popular, I have to say, I'm not a fan.
Bear in mind too that a large penis doesn't actually have any more capacity to harm than a small one or another object. iI a woman isn't aroused or interested, or a partner of any gender is rough or impatient, trying to force anything into the vagina can be painful.)
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