hey i've been sexually active with only one girl for about 2 1/2 years now and in that time we've had sex almost everyday and if not theres times we have sex more than 3 times in a day so its been alot of times and this started when i was 15 till now that im 17 and still every time i still cant last longer than a couple mins... its embarresing and no mater what i try nothing seems to work... when i feel it comming i pull out and try and do other things but then soon as i go for it again its over.. tried thinking of different things that didnt work... also mastrabated before we had sex or before i went over there and still... what do i have to do im desperate to get rid of this its really bothering me to the point of depression..
not using condoms seems to make the prosses go faster and with a condom last another 30 secs but this is not what i want.. and its not that i ahvent gone through puberty idk what to do to get over this.. maby its just in my head? going fast or slow doesnt seem to have an effect either help?!
im afraid i have had sex so many times for only short periods of time that i have permenently affected what my brain does and thinks during sex by when i cum or not.. idk?
[This message has been edited by Tim (edited 11-13-2005).]
There is no infallible method that allows a male to hold off ejaculation. Different things work for different people. However, something that you CAN do, is recognise that sex does not need to end with ejaculation. Intercourse is difficult to maintain after this, but you can still engage in oral or manual sex with your partner, or use a sex toy, if your partner would like continued penetratoin. Furthermore, you could always spend more time on foreplay-- sex does not begin with penetration either.
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yes i know this i just dont want to only have sex for 1 min and thats it and have to resort to other pleasures... does this happen to alot of ppl and do they ever get out of it?
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It's not particularly uncommon. With experience (either with a partner or on their own), plenty of people get to know their bodies better, and therefore gain more control over when they orgasm. This process is unique for every person though-- it's not something for which you can be given instructions in five easy steps.
If both you and your partner are enjoying your sexual relationship, then don't stress about it. If you or your partner are not enjoying any particular activity for whatever reason, then take some time out from it, and concentrate on the things that you do both enjoy.
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