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vickifay27
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Hey everyone....I've been lurking on this site for a while and all the articles have been really helpful. This is a pretty cool place [Smile] Anyway, after years of confusion I finally realized I was bi a few months ago. I "came out" to my sister and my friends (not my parents though because I feel my home environment would be dangerous), but now I'm a bit at a loss. This may seem dumb, but- what happens now? I spent so much time questioning myself it's like I'm not sure what happens now that I know I'm bi. Everyone I know in real life is straight too, so it's not like I have any likeminded people to hang out with. I'm sure that will change in college, but I still have a year of high school left to go....

Any help would be appreciated, since I feel like I just confused myself writing this [Smile]

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Heather
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Heh, good question. [Smile]

Really, what happens now is you just keep on living your life in all the ways you live it. And some of that may be informed by this self-awareness about bisexuality, and having a word for yourself in this regard, and plenty of it also probably will not be.

But ultimately, not a whole lot does happen when we come to terms with one part of ourselves like this, as it is just one part of who you are and does not determine or dictate what your life will be like.

I hear you saying you feel a bit isolated in this, and feeling like you might like some LGBTQ peers. Would you like us to help you look into local resources for you? If you are in DC, for instance, there are some queer youth groups there you could get connected with.

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vickifay27
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Thanks for the help! The thing is, I have a few LGBTQ friends online that are really great to talk to, but we've never really met so it's not quite the same. I'd love to hear any suggestions you've got about where I can get connected with others [Smile]
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Heather
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I would start by connecting with or contacting this group: http://www.thedccenter.org/resources_youth.html

Even if they are not within reach for you, they can likely get you connected to a group who is! [Smile]

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Okay, I'll definitely look into that. Thank you so much! You seem great [Smile]
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Happy to help. [Smile]

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