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leftbehind101
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so i am a girl and have a boyfriend. I cant help but when i see some girls i want to be with them and hug them and kiss them. Sometimes even being in bed. I have never acted on these thoughts but i just dont know what to do. I guess i am alittle embarassed by all of it.
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Heather
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What is there to be embarrassed about?

In other words, having those thoughts, feelings or curiosities about women really isn't different from having them about guys. Why do you think it feels embarrassing to you?

You say you don't know what to do. Are you feeling like you'd like to explore dating women, nor or at some point?

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leftbehind101
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i would want to explore dating women but i dont know what others will think of me. I have been taught to hve one male one female.im sorry
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I don't think anyone needs to be sorry for the way they were raised. After all, it's not like it was up to you?

I also don't think anyone needs to be sorry that they feel concerned about what others will think of their relationships. No matter what kind of relationship we're talking about, a lot of people, especially young people, tend to be concerned about that.

Is your relationship right now exclusive? If so, now probably isn't the time to start dating anyone else, period. But too, maybe before you move into exploring dating, it might be helpful to you to get some education and information about queer relationships since it sounds like you didn't get that?

I'd be happy to suggest some articles and books if you'd like.

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leftbehind101
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what does exclusive mean? I would like articles. I mean i still dont understand why i am feeling the way i am. Im just confused is all and am waisting your time.
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Heather
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Exclusive means that you have an agreement to only date each other or be sexual with each other.

You're not wasting my time, no worries. This is what we're here for.

Why don't you first start with this article, and we can take this from there: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/the_rainbow_connection_orientation_for_everyone

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