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Kat Is High
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I'm bisexual, and to be honest, I'm scared to death. My close friends know and that's it. I'm afraid my family will judge me. My dad and mom are split apart, so I live with my mom. My dad is against gays and I don't know about my mom. She doesn't hate them, but I don't think she'll approve.

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So, am I understanding that what you are afraid of in dating or coming out is family disapproval? Are you worried about things like being abused or kicked out because of this, or is this more about your family just not being supportive?

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That they won't be supportive. But thweyre no abusive, however, I don't think idnbe accepted. And once I turn 18, my fears of them kicking me out ate at high rate.

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Heather
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Based on your profile, you already are 18.

For sure, not all parents are supportive and accepting. Some aren't, then get with the program, some never do. And that is never fun, to say the least.

However, we also have the ability to seek out support from others, or make our own families if and when it turns out the families we are already in aren't accepting of who we are as people, or leave us feeling crummy all the time, rather than supported and cared for.

Do you want to come out to either of your parents right now? Or to actively be dating women, so you would need to be out in some respect if you didn't want to sneak around?

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Kat Is High
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My profile says I'm 18? I didn't make this profile, my friend did. Can I somehow change this setting? And I'm not ready to come out. I think if I get q girlfriend I'll see how it goes and tell them then. Would that work?

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That's really up to you, and also about the person you are dating. Not everyone feels the same way about dating people at various stages of out-ness, or about being involved if and when someone is coming out to family. You'd have to get to that place, figure out how you feel about it, and talk to whomever you are dating about that.

But that certainly is one of your options, just as generally valid as the next.

I'm not sure why you didn't create your own account, but all users can edit their own profiles. If you click the little box with the face and question mark on it on any of your posts, that's how you get to the place to do that.

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Thank you. And because I didn't have WiFi.

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