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snowwhite1
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I like being a girl, but when I am horny I wish I had a penis. I am a virgin and believe I am bi. I love watching 2 men have sex. It is a turn on. I wish I was there with them with a penis. It even turns me on thinking I have a penis. I only wish I had a penis when I am horny and other times I love being female. I have a higher level of testastrone so could that be why?
I hump stuffed animals and towels to get off. I guess it feels like I am using a penis in someone.
I am also hornier than most woman it seems. (the ones I have talked to)

Anyone feel the same? Is this something odd?

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Heather
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What level of sexual desire people have isn't about what genitals we have or what our gender is. That varies from person to person, and isn't based on gender or genitals.

People fantasize about a LOT of different things sexually. Some people without penises imagine having them, some people with them imagine having vulvas. Some people fantasize they're doctors, or have cat tails and ears, or are in a group of people when they're all alone. None of those fantasies are normal or abnormal, they're all just a few examples of the world of different things people can want to imagine when they feel sexual.

Also? Some people who identify as women DO have penises, so we actually can't even say, soundly, there's something not feminine about having a penis. Too, some women use strap-on dildos in their sex play while still being women, so. [Smile]

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snowwhite1
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Ya I guess I just feel alone in this evn though I know woman use strap-ons. There is somthing so exciting about a real penis. It just is a turn on, but I would never tell a sexual partner when I get one. They may think I am strange.

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Heather
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Well, I'd say that our best bet is to choose sexual partners who are comfortable with our sexuality. You could certainly find partners who might also enjoy that fantasy and not think it strange, and while we certainly aren't obligated to share fantasies with partners, not sharing any of them with them basically gets in the way of deeper intimacy and really having everyone be interacting with each other's sexuality.

But no, you're not alone in this. Plenty of people fantasize about having different bodies or body parts than they do, sexually and otherwise.

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snowwhite1
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But Heather where are there chat rooms and stuff for people like me?
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Heather
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Chat rooms centered around sexual fantasies -- of any kind -- aren't something we'd direct anyone to regardless of the fantasy, because we're a sex education organization, and finding avenues for sexual entertainment for people isn't part of what we do.

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snowwhite1
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oh Ic I meant more just to talk not sex
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Heather
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I'm not sure what you mean.

There aren't therapeutic environments, or support groups, about fantasizing one has different body parts as a sexual fantasy because it's not a problem. In other words, it's not about something being wrong with anyone or something that needs fixing.

Chat rooms about sexual fantasies like this are generally intended for adults and are about sexual entertainment.

It sounds like you might feel upset about this or scared about it. If that's so, want to talk more about why you feel that way?

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