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Hi everyone,
Well, for 2 months or so I've had a little mild depression/anxiety problems. Actually, it's not depression or anxiety - but I've been feeling stressed and down and don't know what else to call it! First it was just all about that, and then I got reminded of an event that happened when I was 10 years old.
I've been at an all-girls school all my life, and, I become quite good friends to a girl when I was 10. I started feeling obsessed with her but never wanted to be with her - in fact, it was a very confusing time for me in which I found her attractive, but never sexually attractive or wanted to be with her, and I never questioned my sexuality because of it (I liked a boy at the time).
Then, someone made up rumours I was a lesbian a year later, but I brushed it off because I knew I wasn't. Now, I've suddenly become obsessed with the subject - I have no solid evidence to base my possibly being bisexual on, but this is what I keep thinking: if I let myself think about girls romantically, then I might be attracted to them. Or, maybe my overwhelming fear of being a bisexual is keeping me from being true to myself. I just want to know: 1) Is this normal? 2) Is there really something there - am I a bisexual, or am I just obsessively worrying for nothing? Whenever I look at an attractive girl in magazines or on TV I get uncomfortable now - I actually like a boy now and don't like any girls, but I feel like I might grow to like girls.
Sorry for this being such a long and (probably) boring post! Thank you in advance.

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Being bisexual means that a person feels some level of romantic and sexual attraction to both men and women (or to people of all genders).

How we identify our orientation isn't usually about what it *could* be but about what it is. So, if you feel attraction to both or all genders, then it would make sense for you to identify as bisexual or queer if you want to. If you don't, it wouldn't.

But either way, there's nothing the matter with any given sexual orientation: we all are who we are and feel the things we feel.

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