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PhillipaBBy
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I've never actually considered myself bisexual, rather just a person who loves people in general.
I don't discriminate between either genders, and am of the opinion that love is love.

I've told a grand two people about this.
One of them got pissed of at me because of it.

They said "You have to choose, are you bisexual, or straight?"

All I could really say was "I don't know."

And honestly?
I don't.

I don't have the experience with a women to say that I am sexually attracted to them, so I can't really compare them to a man. I have had fantasies about them, but then I've had them about men AND both genders at the same time.

I am a virgin, but I have fooled around bit.


But, the point of this topic is, should I identify as bisexual, just to be under a label that is passed out far too freely now a' days?
Or should I stick to "People lover" ??

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Heather
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What you're describing is what many people who are bisexual or pansexual experience. In other words, for many of us, it's simply that gender is fairly or totally irrelevant.

How (and if) you identify your orientation is totally up to you, but I'd not figure the popularity of a classification as a big factor: after all, "heterosexual" is more popular than any classification, and plenty of people use it.

If you haven't experienced any attraction to women yet, you just may want to consider what cues you might be sending if you suggest you have, and if you're okay with those cues or not.

Lastly, you don't HAVE to "choose" or identify at all if you don't want to. Whoever got angry with you because you were not picking one classification or the other was out of line.

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PaintedRed
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