Earlier this year (around January) I told my mom I am bisexual. I left her a note right before I left for the airport to go on a school trip. She called me that night at the hotel I was staying at and told me that she was cool with it and loved me and all that jazz. When I got back, she wanted to talk about it, so we did, but we never actually said the word "bisexual" or anything like that. She asked if I was sexually active and when I told her I wasn't (which I'm not) she kiind of dropped the topic.
Skip to a few days ago.
My mom called me to tell me about our plans for a trip to Hawaii we're taking. She jokingly brought up finding someone to "hook up with" while we were there. Then she happily says "yeah, you can find some nice males there" (direct quote).
Do you think she's in denial or does she just not get it? What if she thought I'm not really bisexual because I've never had sex? Should I ask her? When would be a good time?
-------------------- We've all got our junk and my junk is you. Posts: 15 | From: Bay Area, California | Registered: Oct 2008
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Might it be -- especially if you have not actively dated women since your last talk -- that she just kind of spaced out your being bisexual? I know it can seem like it'd be tough to forget since, of course, it's not something YOU would forget. But if that's the only talk you had about it, and you also haven't been dating any women she's met, she may earnestly have just spaced it out when she said that.
Plus, if she's hetero herself, it may have just been what she was thinking, if you get me.
But if you want to bring it up with her, I don't see why you can't, nor that you need to plan much per a time on when to do so.
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