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Just a question, i am a openly gay male and ever since i can rember i always played with the girls rather than the guys. i mean it was fine for a littel while but now i am starting to relise that i have no way of evean talking with the male gender except for a verry few rare exceptions. i have grown up around girls, as friends and in the house hold. i have NEVER had a male rolemodler in my house infact i grew up as a single child only with a mom and sister.
Now that i am wanting to go out and meet people and meet guys i an finding it near impossible to fit in and feel comftuble (can't spell) around them. has any one on this site heard somthing like this before, or have any ways they could help me?


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hey, don't sweat it man... it'll happen for ya. if you feel uncomfortable around guys in general, then maybe you should take it slow. start out by joining a GLBT group near you so that you can meet more people like you. ask your friends if they know any guys you would like, and if they do, ask them to introduce you. you just need to find more people like yourself, so you definitely made a good move by coming here. and if you feel out of place, try to make friend with guys you know are open minded. believe me, if you look in the right places, you'll find what you're lookin for.

if it has really big fangs, it's a killer rabbit! - monty python

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well that's great i am accepted in a homosexual couminity i just need to know how to relate with str8 men or guys in general i have poor scoscial skills (along with poor spelling) with them and i just am wondering if there is a way to fix this or make it better.
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I have poor social skills too. But the thing I think helps me a little, is to take small little "risks" Like, just saying hi to someone,complimenting someone or trying to start little conversation. And then pretty soon the "risks" get a little bigger. Like going up and talking to someone. I'm still on the small "risks" myself. Good Luck

Some days the line I walk, turns out to be straight. Other days the line tends to deviate. - Ani DiFranco

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Small risks. I like that, Rose. I need to start incorporating that into my daily life.
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