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saith166
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Here's a question I've been thinking about. How long does it take to be sure about your sexual orientation? 6 months? a couple of years? Should you wait and see if anything changes? I'd be interested in hearing what people think about this.
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Sh!mmeR!ng*staR
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first off, you don't "decide" your sexuality. it just sort of... happens, i guess. like it's realized. personally, i think most people realize their sexuality in their teenage years, probably because of all the hormones.

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I think I sort of decided. I waited probably about ... a year or so before I told anyone.
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Some people think that it's possible to decide, some people don't. (And even if it is possible, who cares? Conservatives usually use that as ammunition to claim that the "homosexual lifestyle" or whatever, should be cleaned up. If it's possible to choose, and I choose to be gay, straight or bi, big deal. It's none of their damn business anyway.)

As for what the right time to *decide* is, why do you ever need to decide? If you feel like being bisexual during your teens, then do it! But don't let that stop you from being straight when you're 30, and gay when you're 52, if that's how you feel at those particular moments in life.

There aren't any rules about when you should definitely cast your sexuality in stone. If anyone tells you differently, don't buy into it. Be what you are, and if that means being attracted to different people at different times in your life, there's no problem with that!


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well, it took me 2 years to come to grips with the fact that I am bisexual. but then even about a year after I came out about that I decided I was a lesbian. But of course, I knew a girl who went from strait to bisexual, to lesbian in 3 days. It just depends on your mentality I guess. Um...if you're strait now or bi curious just go with the flow of being bisexual, but if a little later on, say 3 months later on you decide you completely don't like men or women (not exactly sure what sex you are) then label yourself as completely gay or lesbian. It's that simple. But as long as your happy, then we're all good to go.


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I don't think you need a certain about of time to realize your sexuality. It usually just comes to you.
Take me for example.
The thought of me being anything other than straight had never entered my mind for my whole life. Then back in March, a combination of a few events caused me to think about it. It only took me a couple months to realize where I stood in terms of my sexuality, and now I'm content with it.
If it takes you a few weeks or months, that's fine. But if it takes you a couple years, or your whole life, that's alright too! Realizing your sexuality isn't something that should be rushed. But you'll know when your sure where you're at.

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