do you think it is possible for a person to "switch" sexualities? i'm not quite sure myself. but i do know that last monday, i was bisexual. now it's a week later and i'm a lesbian. do you think i was only using the label "bisexual" as a shield, as it is more acceptable to be bi, or was i really bisexual for a period in my life? is sexuality fixed at birth or is it flexible? when i was younger, i was straight with a few girlcrushes. at 12 i was bisexual. now i'm 14 and a full-blown lesbian. have i really switched sexualities or is that impossible? i'm confused about this all. tell me what you think.
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A couple of things here, Shimmering. First, I think there are a lot of people out there who would argue that it's not as acceptable to be bisexual as it is to be homosexual. At least when you're homosexual, some people might say, you have a definite place where you fit in. Even in big cities, by contrast, it can be very hard to find bisexual communities. Bisexuals are sometimes seen by both gays and straights as "fence-sitters", people who can't make up their minds.
Second, I'd say that it's possible to 'switch', but I don't know if that's the right term for it. I don't think there are very many people out there who say, "I think I'm going to be bisexual for the next two years," for instance. I think 'evolve' might be a better way of putting it. Sexuality for many people is fluid, that's to say it's always changing. In fact, I'd argue that pretty much everyone's is, because most people are constantly finding themselves to be attracted to new people. Even if you're definitely heterosexual, say, and you've been so for all your life, you can still have different attractions at different times in your life. For sometime, you might be attracted to redheads, and then lose that later on. It's not quite the same as going from hetero to homo, for instance, but it's an evolution nonetheless.
If someone tells me that I can only be one of the three widely accepted sexual orientations (homo, hetero or bi) for the rest of my life, I'm gonna tell that person to take a hike.
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