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miacra
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I asked my boyfriend to inform his mom of my preference so she wouldn't misinterpret me being close with a girl. He wasn't too interested in this, because he thinks I'm too young to be thinking bout being bi. I disagree. Is it really not a good idea to tell his mom or is he just overreacting?
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Actually, I think asking someone else to discuss your sexual orienattion really isn't fair, nor is it appropriate.

If you want to discuss it with his mother, that's your responsibility, and you should do it, not him.

However, the larger question is if it is a good idea for anyone to be with a partner who refuses to accept or acknowledge a part of them.

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If you're too young to be thinking about being bi, then he's too young to be thinking about being straight (if he is). Sexual orientation is about preferance, your age isn't important, and you may change your mind, but you may not.

But really, you should be the one to tell his mom if you feel that it's important for her to know that. Although a boyfriend who says you're too young to be who you are doesn't seem like the greatest person to be with.

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miacra
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Thank's for helping me decide what I'm going to do. I sent my b/f's mom an email (give her time before she sees me next). I think I should also explain my b/f's behavior. He has told me he doesn't mind me being bisexual. While he did give the reason I'm too young the first time I talked to him about it, he told me later it really is because he was afraid she would overreact and prevent us from going out any longer. So that part is taken care of. Now I'm really nervous. I have those fears of possible trouble, as I explain in my diary at diaryland http://erythisis.diaryland.com
Now I would like to know if there is there anything I can say next time I see my b/f's mom to soften the surprise. Please send me some suggestions.

[This message has been edited by miacra (edited 06-12-2001).]


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Sounds to me like you've gone out of your way to be honest and forthright, miacra.

That in and of itself should make it all as smooth as it's going to go (and that, in and of itself, is praiseworthy). Just be open to answering questions if she has them, and let her know you're happy to.

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miacra
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Thanks for everything. My b/f's mom IMed me on AIM and told me she was glad I told and its all right.
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See? Most things like that we get more worked up in our heads about then they really should be. I'm glad everything turned out well for you guys

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