This is a major ethical dilemma for me. The boy's locker rooms at school are basically heaven, but it feels really wrong to take advantage of society's heterosexism. It's the same thing on school trips: "No girls in the boy's rooms!" all the teachers say (assuming that everyone is straight), but they mean "No people attracted to guys in the boy's rooms!"
Perhaps it's just because I'm a teenage guy that I feel this way, but does anyone else have issues like this?
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In the girls locker room, I did feel kinda of bad (cuz there were some pretty hott girls in my class), but I did my best to not look. And I think whether I was gay or straight, I would have been careful not to look, just out of respect of privacy. But I never really thought of it, otherwise.
In the hockey locker room, though, that's a different story. Everyone was so close on our team that we could have all wandered around naked and no one would care. Wait ... that makes it sound like I gawked, didn't it? Meh. Well, I didn't, but it was just that the level of comfort is also a big issue (and a few people on my team knew of my gayness and that a teammate and I were going out).
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Last year I was on the swim team at school so we changed a lot in front of each other. And when you're changing in and out of a swimsuit . . . you're pretty much getting naked. I didn't feel the need to look at anyone else because I don't see nudity as a particularly sexual thing in and of itself unless I'm already attracted to the person getting naked. I wasn't really attracted to anyone on the team, so it just worked out. There was another girl on the team who wasn't out who I recently found out is a lesbian. She graduated last year. She used to bop around the locker room buck naked and dance with this other girl and everything. It was sorta funny but made everyone a little uncomfortable, just because we weren't that close. It was never that big of a deal, but it's hard not to look at someone when they are dancing around and singing RENT songs naked, soaking wet, and splashing water everywhere.
At camp things are entirely different. I've been going to the same sleepaway camp for the past eight years. It's pretty much the same girls in my bunk every year. We get very very close. It's wonderful. We walk around naked all the time and no one cares. I came out four summers ago and another girl in the bunk came out two summers ago. 2 out of 10 . . . nice ratio. Everyone is completely cool with it. They talk about their boyfriends. We talk about our girlfriends. It's like a sexual orientation acceptance utopia. The other girl and I just try to not sexualize the nakedness. Sometimes it's impossible because I had a bit of a crush on her, but I didn't make it obvious or anything. It's pretty easy to just not look. And it's really the only respectful thing to do.
I know how you feel. I used to think to myself "hee hee, little do they know...!!!" when I was with girls in hotel rooms, locker rooms, cabins, whatever. I went to a pretty open camp where probably half the population was not straight. Yet we had to sleep in separate cabins. I think this whole gender separatist attitude is pretty dumb....I'm all for co-ed bathrooms and such.
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