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Last night I went out on a date with one of my friends (who is a guy) and he held my hand during the movie we went to see and I felt nothing I didnt want him touching me and I felt different. When Im around some of my friends (who are girls) I think there hot and they are. But im more attrcted to females then I am males, but I have had more boyfriends then girlfriends (I have had no girlfriends). I dont know what to do Im sooo confused.
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You know, you're the only one who can decide if you're a lesbian. Your sexual orientation is about who you're attracted to, not the number of boyfriends or girlfriends you've had.

The fact that you didn't want to be touched by this one guy doesn't mean much - maybe you aren't attracted to guys, or maybe you just weren't attracted to this particular guy. You're the only one who can tell if you have sexual feelings towards men, women or both (remember, it's perfectly possible to be attracted to both women and men - that's why we have the word "bisexual").

And it's okay to be confused - give yourself time to figure out what you feel. You don't have to pin a label on yourself if you're not sure what fits. You can just go with the flow and see who you're attracted to and who you want to be sexual with.

It's not like you have to make a snap decision today and then the Sexual Orientation Police will come and arrest you if you ever change your mind or feel attracted to someone of the "wrong" sex .

[This message has been edited by logic_grrl (edited 05-18-2002).]

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