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Ok... I'm 18 going on 19 in like a month and I recently visited my old highschool. I was approached by one of my friends who happened to be a freshman when I was a senior and found out that she was bisexual. She told me that she had been attracted to me and is more attracted then ever. She went on to tell me what she'd like to do to me and asked if i was bi too. I told her I wasnt but confessed of being "bi-curious" as I call it and I always had thoughts of it but never ever acted on it. I also told her that none of our mutual friends knew this and think I'm somewhat homophobic when it comes to other females hitting on me. Well my problem is that this little sophomore has sparked a big curiosity in me and now I want to "try" this whole girl thing out. Im still in love with the male gender, I just want to see if i can have the same experience with the female gender. I know this is normal and all that hub-bub but Im kinda lost on this one. If it were someone else Id be totally supportive but I have no straight friends who are willing to do that and all of my bi friends will try to push me too much. I just need to find a common ground to help me with my dilemma... Dang. Being a young adult sucks. Can you help me?
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Well, let me start off by saying that at one time or another, everybody is curious about members of the same sex. (Ok maybe not everybody- maybe like 99.9% of people.)
And of course, there's absolutely nothing wrong with actually BEING bisexual. But just because you've thought about it or are curious doesn't make you bisexual.

Having said that; if there's somebody that you feel comfortable trying this out with, and you don't have ANY second thoughts or doubts about it, then go ahead! This is a good time of your life to try new things and establish who you are as a person, and more specifically, as a sexual being. Kinda like
"try before you buy". Haha. If you decide to do this, and you like it, then great! And if you don't, well you don't have to do it again. I'm always the one to say though that I'd rather have fun and try new things, and even if I have regrets about it afterwards, it's not as bad as the regret you have when you had the opportunity to do something and you didn't do it.

Again, DON'T do it if you don't feel 100% sure that you're ready for this, and if you don't feel 100% comfortable with the person you'd be doing it with. And you still need to have protection and all that- so go out and get tested, and have your partner get tested, and then you're good to go!

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

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Please consider age of consent laws before moving too much farther. No need to wind up in a messy situation like that.

The Orientation and Identity FAQs may also help clear some things up for you.

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