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alright here it goes..

firstly hi ! ive been thru your site many times..
just got the courage to right about it now..
well firstly.. yeah iam attracted to girls..
and yes i am in love with one currently too..and i wish it would go ahead. But there are issues..
thats where i'l begin now..
iam a from that point of view im already going to hell. but okay if i will go to hell why not enjoy my life then go ? well thats God to judge, although iam a very sweet person,as all my friends say.
i was in an all girls school..yeah..and my mother was a teacher there sorta messed things up..but well i survived..she used to hear things about me and girls..and many times told me its wrong and not known to be good..i always argued back and said we're just friends..
Ppl used to say im a lesbian I SURVIVED !..yeah but in the end i guess i realised myself about me my self..

well schools over..moms thinks or guesses im a gay..[i prefer saying gay thinks its easier to say it ]
i have a cousin who i share my thoughts with about everythiing..shes cool with it..and supports me [Big Grin]
glad !
NOw theres this another cousin whom iam in love with[the one i spoke earlier who im in love with]..and i love her very much..she loves me too..and ive given her a ring too..and asked her to marry me..she did say yes..i hope it wasnt in a jokey way.. [Razz] [ BTW iam not living in a country where this is accepted thought LOL i could be jailed ! ]
we are in diff countries though..i meet her whenever i visit my home country..
and we have been close..we hold hands..we kiss on cheeks..
though i'm the younger one..3 years be precise..i am really happy and she is too..
but just in my mind sometimes thoughts come up that i know one day or the another she has to get married probably to some guy :@ which is true caz in our families that's the case..we reach a certain age..22-24 and they start looking for a groom..its annoying..
she tells me no to think about it.. i do try not to..and enjoy whatever is going on..
but you know mind is a stupid thing.

I would be realy glad if you could reply and just guide me out..about everything..
no we dont label ourselves...i guess we go by this..we love each other so yeah thats what matters.
Thankyou SO MUCH !

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Sounds like you've been through a lot but are a really resilient person.

You know, I think with this cousin it's important to recognize that getting involved romantically with someone you're related to is itself a really major issue and often very problematic. In other words, even if you were a straight guy, this could be a real issue. As a lesbian in a family and community that's unaccepting of that already, getting involved with your cousin, to me, just sounds like a very easy way to make a REALLY big mess for you, for her, and in general.

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Thank you for the reply ...
yeah :/ that is disappointing. So we just have to hide our emotions and love each other in our hearts i guess. Yeah i guess a big mess would be created..
Thank you once again.
We will still love each harm done in that.. [Smile]
and at every oppurtunity love each other even more..
whenever we do get it [Smile]
thankyou <3

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