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Hey, I have a question that's a good question to have. I recently met a woman who seems to like being with me and vice versa. We seem to work well together. And she's bi like me. She's also really my type, I'm attracted to her. So is there a good amount of time to just hang out with her before letting her know?
I've actually done this before, but I've done it very stressed without thinking about it too much, and now I'm thinking.
If she's not into me, I'd still be happy being friends.
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Yeah, we don't work in the same place, so when we meet it's always outside of work. I meant hanging out as friends, we talk about what we've seen recently, favorite parts of the city, etc. Hope that clarifies things.
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I realize now, that in some ways this was a silly question because there's so much to do with the two individual people involved, none of which anyone else can tell on the internets. I think my brain is just spinning because it's the first time I've been in this situation with someone who's very out and blatant and it's good but weird.
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I think the being out part, actually just makes this like many other sort of "do I, don't I?" questions, about whether or not to ask someone else out, but without the need to try and navigate all the difficulties with being in the closet or having problematic parents etc... So I think it's worth considering it on a very general basis, rather than anything specific about being LGBT.
I've never been somebody who has been able to just spontaneously ask someone if they want to go on a date, although I think people who can are really cool. However I personally really prefer just approaching things like a friendship and then taking it from there a little later.
I think it really just depends on what you feel comfortable with... but I don't think there's any LGBT etquette to worry about, thankfully...
So I agree with Rae, go for it when comfortable.
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Thanks, guys. Yeah I'm just getting used to not having to do the whole opinion-testing to find out if knowing who I'm attracted to will lose me a person's friendship (although if it does, in some ways it's no great loss). And technically, I could tell her tomorrow. Which doesn't feel quite right, but yeah, it's kind of a different feeling. And you're right, this is probably more like what "straight" relationships are generally like.
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