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I have always fantasized about being with a girl but was always dating men (online). Never have I done anything sexual with a man, even though I had the opportunity three times with two different guys. The look, size and thought about having sexual relationships with a man was something I could never do--even when I thought about it.

Now, I find myself with a woman I have been dating for almost 6 months now. Never have I felt something so secure, sweet, meaningful and romantic. I always knew deep down in my heart I was attracted to women, but the odd part was I could not see myself with a feminine woman; I always liked the thought of a butch being my partner and to me, being with a 'femmy' would not feel right.

I am emotionally and sexually attracted to women and I no longer think about men more than friends. Is it normal to br attracted to butch women and am I a Lesbian? [Smile]

I love you Steph. <3

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There really is no "normal" when it comes to what kind of person or gender presentation people are attracted to. There's a lot of variation in that. There's nothing abnormal about having one broad kind of gender presentation be the one that appeals to you.

Think for a minute about how many heterosexual men are only attracted to high-femme women. You probably only have to think about it for a millisecond, really: a lot. That's very common.

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It's okay to be just attracted to butch women. That's ur preference. Ur feelings r ur feelings. If it's just women that ur attracted to, whether there butch or femme, u can still be considered a lezz. Just cuz a woman is dressed like a man, it dzznt mean they are [Big Grin] . See, I'm attracted to feminine women. The only butch women I'm appealed to are black butch lesbians. Other races, I like femme. I can't see myself being with a femme black woman, nor with a butch white, hispanic, and other races etc. I felt weird about it the 1st time I realized it. I felt like an idiot but now I feel confident of who I like. [Smile] So there's nuttin wrong w/ having a certain type, and how u identify urself. XD

~Stephanie Gabriella Murray
I'm very gay for being a lesbian, and not gay to be what I'm not

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