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ShanShan
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Hi, I have recently started dating this guy I really like. And when ever we talk and stuff there are moments when there is this awkward silence. I told him about it and said that I liked him a lot and didn't want to mess it up, becuase my friends said that's what I should do. (It was a facebook message)I was just wondering if that was an okay thing to do.

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reeree
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Silence has to happen sometimes in a relationship. Its normal :3 I've been dating someone for 7 months and we STILL have awkward silences. Its not a "perfect" relationship but I do like him and he likes me back When the silence happens think of some other subject, possible a really random on, to talk about.

Like :
End of discussion.
/Silence
*jump in with something you can either both relate to or both have in common.

Or you could always say something like "Oh I forgot to ask about your day!" or "So, what movies have you watched?" Or "Oh you remember that conversation yesterday? You seemed interested , want to continue where we left off? If not okay just wondering. "

:3 Hope I helped.

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Kachina
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I'm wondering why the silence is feeling "awkward"? People don't need to talk the whole time they are together. It can be a nice time to just enjoy whatever it is you guys are doing together.

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Humans are allergic to change. They love to say, "We've always done it this way." I try to fight that. That's why I have a clock on my wall that runs counter-clockwise. - Grace Hopper

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ShanShan
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Thanks you guys. This is pretty much the first guy I have ever gone out with, and I have this thing where I worry about saying the wrong and stuff like that.

The silence is feeling awkward because we pretty much cut off conversation and look around.

I am so worried, because I said, I really like this guy and he said that he liked me for a while. And I am just generally worried that it will get annoying because I don't know what to do...

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Stephanie_1
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You know, sometimes you learn a lot more about others and yourself as a relationship when not trying to fill silences. Since those moments really *can* become awkward when trying to fill the silence with something just so it's not there. And you may notice as the more time you spend together the more comfortable it can become to just sit silently for a moment of a handful of moments, whether you're sitting side by side or across from one another, holding hands, cuddling, etc. But you can also try to think up a question or two before going out should you hit a quiet moment that feels uncomfortable for any reason.

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ShanShan
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Thanks you guys. You have been really helpful.

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