I've been dating a person who identifies as a butch lesbian, and we recently had sex for the first time.
It looks as though she might be intersex, although I don't know for sure because she didn't mention it and I'm certainly not a doctor. I care about her and am attracted to her either way, but I guess I don't know how to bring this up in a way that is the most respectful and least awkward.
To be more specific - her clitoris looks like a small penis. She does have a vaginal opening behind it. Again, totally cool with me, although not what I was expecting so I have no idea how to react. Is it better to just not say anything? Are the STI risks the same as with a person who is not intersex?
(Note that she uses female pronouns and is not taking testosterone or steroids.)
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There is a lot of variability in the human body, so it would be difficult to say whether your partner is intersex or not without her being examined by a doctor and undergoing tests.
What do you feel you would gain from talking to her about what you noticed about her genitals?
And no, STI risks are no different.
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