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Shani
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You see, there's this girl...

She and I are currently in a production of the musical Curtains! together, and i really like her a lot. Like, this is one serious crush. We've already both come out to each other, but i think she already has a girlfriend. How do i find out for sure? I don't wanna straight-up ask her (heheh, "straight" up), but the only other person who would know is our mutual friend, who I've only known for a couple of weeks. I don't really know if it's okay for me to ask him about her. Any ideas?

ThanQ for reading [Smile]

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Heather
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You know, if you're becoming friends with someone, asking if they're with someone is pretty common, just as a general thing.

So, "Hey, are you seeing anyone?" is something you really can ask pretty casually. But I'd also say it's okay to ask your mutual friend, too.

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Shani
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Hmm, really? ThanQ very much. Haha, see, this is the first friend I've had who I've had a crush on.
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Maybe you've already accomplished your goal question, but if you need conversation starters, you can always inquire as to whether your mutual friend is seeing someone and transition over to whether your crush is seeing someone. It appears as if you're just interested in "people" and not snooping for answers. Good luck.
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