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sonfreak27
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Ok, so I was sitting with my gf today at lunch with my friends and my gf normally puts her arm around me and kisses me at the lunch table. Well, today she got called over by the assistant principal, after she kissed me, who basicly told her that she wasnt allowed to do those kinda things anymore. She protested of course saying that all the other straight couples do it and he never yells at them for it. He denied that. He said that she couldnt kiss me or sit so close to me and if she did it again he would call her mom. My gf and I were doing nothing wrong, and its not like we are/were being innapropriate about it. I was very mad and all my friends at the lunch table said that he was discriminating us. My gf and I are the only same sex couple in the school.

What I want to know is that was my assistant pricipal discriminating against us and is there anything we can do about it. (Like sue the school? ha just kidding [Razz] )

Any help will be very appreciated [Smile]

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Heather
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By any chance, do you have a policy book for your school? Plenty of schools do have them, and plenty include PDA policies.

I'd start by seeing if you can't locate your school policy on public displays of affection first, so that you know if there are any policies, and if so, what they are.

However, it's very unlikely if there is a policy that it dictates who can SIT near or with whom, and if nothing else, that is likely something you can take action with. Are you or your girlfriend's parents aware of your relationship and/or supportive?

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sonfreak27
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Yeah we have a PDA policy (though its not really inforced). We are allowed to hold hands, hug, and quickly kiss but no more than that. I mean, its not like I was sitting on my gfs lap and making out with her (those are not allowed).

My parents dont know about us quite yet, Im still not ready to tell them. Her mom doesnt know either but she would still be supportive if she knew.

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Heather
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So, would you say you and your girlfriend were acting within that policy? If not, would you say that when others have acted outside that policy, it's been enforced the same way for them as it was for the two of you?

In terms of your partners, one reason why I asked that is that, unfortunately, you two doing something about this -- which I would encourage, absolutely -- will probably mean you being outed more, including to your parents. So, that's just something you'll want to consider in terms of what you two feel is best for you when it comes to what you do about this.

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