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I'm a lesbian.
I am in a relationship now that has now become sexual.
My past girlfriends have all been fairly similar in the sense of what it takes to please them.
My current girl however, isn't very sensitive.
I want to make oral sex more pleasing to her so she can really feel it.

Any tips on how to make oral sex stronger and more intense?

[ 09-23-2008, 07:02 PM: Message edited by: scarlet_letter ]

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What does she have to say about how SHE feels about oral sex? Not everyone finds that to be a favorite thing, after all, and just because you've had a few partners with similar likes and sensitivity doesn't mean everyone's always going to be the same.

So, first thing to do is to talk to your current girlfriend and ask what she's liked, and if oral sex is even something she's all that interested in.

If it is, then more talking about what areas of her clitoris (or other parts of her vulva) are best for her, what kind of speed and pressure she likes, and then experimenting based on that info over time should do it.

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She wants oral sex, she hadn't done anything sexually when I met her. I am her first.
I know everyone's not the same. My whole point is that she's very, very different then my previous partners.
She wants more pressure and intensity, and we're also looking for ways to be more creative.
I guess that I'm going to have to go with the old standard, "Practice makes perfect".

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Perhaps you could try some things other than oral sex? Not to presume anything by her inexperience, but perhaps she wants oral sex because that's what she thinks she's supposed to want?

I know that before I ever had oral sex, I had heard the praises of it sung by women across the land, and I expected the sky to fall or something. But for me it didn't - and although it may have been in part because of my medication, it was at least a little because it just wasn't my thing.

There may be a lot of other factors playing into the situation than your technique. In any case, nothing beats a good honest discussion on what you both enjoy.


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