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rimmo
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So, in the past year or so, I have been very turned on my transsexual women...I am still straight, but find myself wanting to experience a transsexual for some reason...I actually have a chance to in the next few weeks, anyone have any experiences or ideas? I don't know if I should or not, please help?
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PenguinBoy
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If you're attracted to someone of any sex or gender, there is always nothing wrong with that.

Whether or not you should however, is about whether you actually are comfortable and prepared to be in a relationship with someone who is a transexual, and whether or not they're ready to be with you.

If you're asking whether a sexual experience with someone transexual is any good. Then what I have to say is that however they identify or dress, or if they've had surgery, it makes very little impact on your sexual enjoyment when compared to who the person is, how they communicate and whether or not you two are sexually compatible. You should really look at those sorts of things. In your mind it might seem like it's what you want, but when it comes to real life, people have a lot more to them than being transsexual, and for your own sake and for theirs it will be better to acknowledge those things.

Them being transsexual should not be the only factor of your attraction, because the other things will always be there and if they don't fit right you'll both suffer.

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Heather
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FYI, though, too?

Just in case this is where your head is at (especially given your age), please remember that people are real people, not social experiments, or some new object on the menu. Most transgender and transsexual people get treated like a novelty enough in their lives, that having a partner treat them that way can be especially hurtful.

To boot, a post-op MTF is generally going to want to identify and be identified as a woman, not as a transsexual. If you can't treat that person like a full-fledged woman, again, you need to have a think on this.

I find that a pretty good rule with any sort of casual sex or sexual experimentation is this: if I can picture myself having sex with this person, can I also picture myself being close -- and not secret -- friends with this person, or in a romantic relationship with this person? If neither of those things feel like that's something you'd even remotely consider, then you need to consider that you may be treating someone as an object, not a person, and bear in mind that unless a person wants to be objectified, it's generally not kind or caring treatment.

[ 09-07-2007, 12:57 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Austere
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Rimmo,

We (Yes, I'm TG -- Male to Female) might turn you on or whatever for our anatomy being different from our body like if we're on hormones or whatever, but you gotta keep in mind that most of us have trouble accepting what we have in the nether regions (unless you're talking gender queer or whatever) so if your fantasy with us is to be with a girl with a dick or a guy with a pussy, well, I think you need to do some re-evaluation because it's not likely that one of us is going to be attracted to someone who likes us only for something that we don't like about ourselves.

So, you should consider thinking about what about us attracts you before you make any decisions because we have feelings about our anatomy. I mean, sure there're plenty of us who'd be willing to have sex pre-op but if you want an actual relationship you have to accept that we might have surgery and, well, so much for that, eh?

[ 11-01-2007, 12:09 AM: Message edited by: Natalya[AF] ]

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