so there is this girl that flirts with me all the time. Well its kind of a wierd situation, like nobody knows that i am gay since i have not come out yet, but she always like " makes fun of me" and calls me butch and like gay but in a playful sort of way. Well she flirts with me ALOT like will run on me and like fool around. Do you think this is all playful, or should i go for it and tell her the truth and maybe see if there is more there. Maybe she is trying to tell me something. What do you think?
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She could be trying to tell you something, or know and and it trying to get you to come out to her. OR she could just be being a bully. But if its the 1st one than why not take the chance and tell her maybe shes teasing you cause she likes you but shes not sure if you are gay actually so shes scared to ask you out.
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It sounds to me like perhaps she is interested. But that doesn't necessarily mean that she'll be concious of that... or likely to admit it.
If you do like her, you could arrange to meet her out of school, not explicitly a date, but just do something together at least as friends where being on a one-on-one basis could definitely let you decipher what is going on, and you may even find that you'd be able to ask her about her flirting.
If you don't want to come out, you don't have to.
And getting closer to her as a person or a friend, doesn't mean you have to do that, you'd then have a better idea of how she could react, and if in fact she's gay/bi.
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