Hi... First time poster. (For a start, can I ask if this is actually a girls-only thing? I'm sort of confused by the colour scheme).
I've felt attracted to boys as well as girls for a while now - the thing is, I'm not honestly sure if I am bi (or even gay) or whether it's a teenage hormone thing and it'll pass. I really don't want to be gay. I've got nothing against gays at all, I just really don't want to be.
But onto the main point: I fancy this boy, unfortunately he's two school years below me. I'm in Year 10. I know I should really leave it alone - but I can't stop thinking about him. What should I do?
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This isn't a girls-only board, but a lot of us are girls (like me!). I always felt the color scheme was somewhat neutral. *shrugs*
You don't have to label yourself as "bi" or "gay" if you're not comfortable with it.
And there is definitely a lot of stigma against queer folks. Some days I look at the paper or look at the world and just wish that there was a magic pill to make me straight, blonde, and thin. But I realized that just because society says that's "normal" doesn't mean it's right.
Anyway, I don't see a problem with liking someone two years younger than you. For example, my best guy friend (18) is dating a girl who's 16. They're not sexually active, to the best of my knowlege, and that's why it's still legal. As long as it's legal in your state/province/country and you think the feeling is mutual, power to you. And there's always the option of just enjoying the crush for what it is.
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