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omegia
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i recently ended a relationship(just didnt work out)ok so i met this girl who i am deeply attracted to.not just looks but as a person.so we had talked and i found out that she was bi-,we started hanging out and i had went over her house and talked and shared our feelings when things started to get going.we kissed made out but when things sarted to go further she just frozed i talked to her and she says that she just dont really know what she want or who she really want to be with.how can i make things better.how can i ensure her that things is going to be ok.that this is right?i dont want to force her but i just want her to know and love me the way i love her...
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Ecofem
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You could back off on the pressure, and give her time and space to get comfortable and/or get more comfortable. Maybe she hasn't totally accepted herself in terms of attraction to females or isn't sure she's actually attracted to women, maybe she just needs time to get to know you better and open up to you, maybe this relationship just isn't one where she'll be comfortable. Or a bunch of other reasons.

I know you really care for and about your friend and want her to reciprociate your feelings. But it just doesn't always work out, which sucks but that's life. And society's stigma adds an extra burden for queer people to work through, especially when they are young and still figuring stuff out.

However, this is (hopefully) jumping the gun way too early and she just needs some time. Just be patient and respectful of her wishes. And don't forget your own well-being, such as if you start to feel yourself getting worn down by all this.


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omegia
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yea thanks for the advice it really made me think,i was like her when i had my first "date" with a girl. i needed some time and so does she thanks for the great advice.
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