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How do I go about telling my mother and friends that I am a bisexual leaning more towards females? and how do I go about meeting other lesbians and gettinga girlfriend?

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kunfused, you need to take your AIM screen name/email out of your post. It's against Scarleteen guidelines, which you agreed to when you signed up for a handle.
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hi i was in your postion about 3 months ago and only got half way out and what i relized about friends is that if they are true friends they will understand whats going on and then support you through all of your troubles but you need to give them some time to let it sink in to there heads. i still have all of my friends that i told. now my parents have no idea that i am the way i am but my sister and all her friends do and they told me not to tell my mom but it is really hard to keep such a secret for such a long time so i have decided after writting all this to you is that they should understand and if they dont you get to go through therapy to try and get you to change but what you need to do is sit them down and tell them i have something i need to get off my chest and then just tell them but make sure it is the right time to tell them because if it is not then you will get a bad reaction and you dont want that and remeber just like your friends you need to give them time to let it sink into there heads to.

i hope i helped ket me know how it works out and ill try to do the same bye.

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Well, I didn't know how to tell my mom either. I like to write songs, so one day I just started writing. The words came spilling out of my head. I didn't even know it, but it was perfect to show my mom. I wrote it up neatly, and laid it on her pillow. I went to bed, and the next thing I know, my mom is sitting on my bed at 6 in the morning. I sat up and the first thing she did was give me a hug. We talked about it for a long time, she said she wasn't suprised and that she actually suspected it a while back. (I am especially close to my girl friends, not in that way but it made her wonder). So now I have come out to my mom and my best friend, and I don't want to tell anyone else for now. You don't have to tell anyone you don't want to. Tell someone you know you trust and will stick by you. Just flat out tell them. My best friend was cool about it. Her aunt is gay so she was used to it. Hope this helped.
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