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imchopin
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I have to say that I'm probably the most fortunate person I know. I'm fourteen, I have a fairly liberal father and a hippie mother, a screwy family (including my three year old niece), and I'm gay. Oh--and I'm a guy. (I'm not Singaporean though; my dad is in on one of those expat deals.) Anyway, the point is, almost every person in my school seems to think I'm gay simply because of the way I act. Its not like I'm a queen or anything, its just how I am, you know? The reason I'm so "fortunate" is because I never really have to deal with any of those people--yay! My friends, consisting mostly of girls (another give-away) all like me for I who I am; they see me as sweet, funny, smart, whatever, and they don't care whether I'm gay or not. They like me for me, and if I came out to them they would still like me for me. (I hope.) Is this great or what?

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Sh!mmeR!ng*staR
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that's pretty cool. we should all be so lucky.

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kythryne
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<nodnod>

Y'know, this is an excellent reminder of the fact that being different in any way -- be it sexual orientation, or anything else -- doesn't automatically mean that you'll be doomed to live a life of misery and loneliness.

I'mincredibly lucky in that most of the people in my life accept me as I am, and a lot of them even value the very things that make me "socially unacceptable." It didn't happen overnight, though -- it took realizing first that there's nothing wrong with being myself, and then seeking out people who didn't try to change me into something I'm not. I did lose a few "friends" along the way -- but in all honesty, how much of a friendship can you have with someone who won't accept you? Not much, usually.

I live a life that would be considered quite strange by many people. I am openly queer, I am poly, I am married to a transsexual, I have very eclectic religious beliefs, I study sexual behavior and do sex education... the list goes on. Sure, I get some funny looks and some rude comments sometimes, but I'm happy with my life. And that's what's really important to me.

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tasha
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quote:
Originally posted by kythryne:
<nodnod>

Y'know, this is an excellent reminder of the fact that being different in any way -- be it sexual orientation, or anything else -- doesn't automatically mean that you'll be doomed to live a life of misery and loneliness. <snip>
Sure, I get some funny looks and some rude comments sometimes, but I'm happy with my life. And that's what's really important to me.


Oh, you put that so well, kythryne!
What fun is it to go through life without getting funny looks, anyway?

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ice_magick
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I am a lesbian with 'cool-about-it' parents, incl. an openly gay father. I'm also out to one very close friend my age. So I would guess I'm lucky. But I'm sooo afraid of coming OUT out. yeah I want to do it, but eeee! People at my school already hate me for the color of my skin and my pacifist ideals and my haircut and the people I hang with, blah blah blah. I think I'd get mobbed, slammed, jumped on or lockered (all various forms of student to student violence in school jargon, all happenned to me at least once b4) But then, it felt so good coming out to JC, such a relief...I wonder...
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kitty pryde
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quote:
Originally posted by kythryne:
Y'know, this is an excellent reminder of the fact that being different in any way -- be it sexual orientation, or anything else -- doesn't automatically mean that you'll be doomed to live a life of misery and loneliness.

This is a great thing to keep in mind. Sometimes there's cause for caution, but never just *assume* that people will hate you for being different, before you get to know them - then you're being just as prejudiced as the people you're afraid of! I know I missed out on getting to know some cool people because of doing that, and I've learned my lesson.


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CherryLips
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I think it is so cool that you are gay and proud of it. I think I'm bi-sexual but people I know wouldn't react well. My real friends would be fine with it, but that's only like 4 people out of everyone I know! I have always been popular and guys have loved me so.... I'm just confused. People at my school are such gossip hags, and I am insecure so I don't have the courage to come out - yet! I will later though.... you've kinda inspired me.
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DrQuack5
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I'm one of those really fortunate people, too.

While my parents weren't exactly thrilled about my being gay, it's one of those things that pretty much goes, "Deal with it." So now it's all good with them.

My friends are the best of all, though. I'm really open with everyone and, (I love this one) one of my best friends came out as gay a few months ago.

Usually, it's a non-issue with my friends, unless of course, we're talking about how cute some girl is. And the fact that most of my friends are pretty bi to some extent.


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Sh!mmeR!ng*staR
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i'm out to everyone but my family, and i think a few of my cousins are suspicious. it's pretty liberating to finally be open with my friends about who i like, and now me and the guys (and a few of the girls) can girl-hunt at the mall too. :-D

well, not so much now cos i'm dating someone... but ya know... it's nice.


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