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Hey, I'm almost 14..i've never done anything sexual with a guy or girl.

i recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months, we didn't have sex but i was definitely attracted to him and it seems like i was slightly attracted to girls while going out with him.

now i am even more attracted to girls but i am also attracted to guys..sometimes i feel more attracted to girls then guy and it makes me nervous..

i am SO happy i found this site and ive beenn reading posts of people with similar questions..

[sorry for rambling]

anyway..when i mansturbate i love thinking of girls but i try to stop feels good to think of going down on a girl or kissing a girl and i love girls bodies.

but when i fantasize about guys it feels good too but sometimes i feel like im missing out on the girls..

is this normal? i dont think i could actually have a relationship with a girl but im open to try things..i know having a relationship with a guy is great i am SO confused..please help me..

i know im not a lesbian because i have feelings for guys..

is this normal? thank you for your help



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When I first started to fantasize about boys, I thought that I was just in a phase, and I have friends who said they went through a phase where they thought about the opposite sex in a sexual way. When my feelings started to go deeper, I thought that I was Bi. After much introspection, patience and time, I've realised that I'm gay.
I just want to say that if you fantasize about girls, that might mean that your straight and appreciate a girl's sexiness, or that you're going through a phase, ot that you're bisexual, or that you're lesbian.
Whichever one of these you are, just let time decide, and don't try to make yourself decide. Just do what feels best. What I've learnt is that labelling yourself as straight, bi or gay just makes life more complicated, not easier.
Just do what feels natural and be patient.


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