I have known I am bi since I was probably 12 or 13 (I'm 17 now). I really accepted it about 2 or 3 years ago, and began telling people this summer. I am completely ok with it, but I'm still shaky about telling some people...especially my best friend. She is very supportive of gay/bi issues- she came to a gsa meeting (I am the pres), she makes sure to be politically correct, she is great about it. But she is very uncomfortable with things she has never personally encountered, sexual things specifically. Well, I finally got the courage to tell her the other night, and basically, her respsonse was that even though she was glad I could tell her, she wished I hadn't, she would rather not know. Now she is pretending I never said a word, and refuses to even discuss it. I told her I would rather have her ask questions or tell me her problems with it(especially b/c I told her so I could be honest about myself), but she freaks out every time and says she "doesnt know what to say." Would it be completely innapropriate for me to email her a list of ways to respond in this situation (a guide for friends of people who come out)? How long do I have to wait? Pretending this never happened is killing me. How do I deal with her? I also want to tell other people, but not until this is worked out.
Posts: 4 | From: new jersey | Registered: Apr 2004
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I just think its her way with dealing wit it if u did not say you actually wanted to talk bout it and have a big heart to heart convosation bout it then i just think its ehr way of accepting it! Sorry if not alot of help!
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