Janet: you of course can post your personal narrative here. (And posting the link, also okay.)
We just ask with stories like that that they don't direct someone else in a way such as "because I did X and wasn't happy, you should do Y instead," et cetera. "I" statements are our best friends here.
Per my own experiences with abortion, what I've realized over the years, if it's helpful, is that I had a few things in my corner to make it a 100% okay experience for me:
- I had a local, not a general anaesthetic, which meant I never had to wonder about what happened, or imagine different thing than actually occured: I was alert and observant the entire process.
- I felt fully capable of making ANY choice per my pregnancy. Given, it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy, so it wouldn't have ended up brought to term, but not knowing that until the abortion, I could have chosen to have a child, too: it wouldn't have been easy, and ultimately it wasn't what I wanted, but if I had, I could have worked that out.
- I had a completely supportive partner, who supported whatever choice I made, even though the one I did conflicted with what he actually wanted.
- I wasn't in any way scared: I understood the procedure in advance, I grew up in medical environments, so I didn't feel weird or nervous in that respect. I also felt no shame about it, nor did I need to be secretive about it at all.
- I didn't then, and don't now, have any personal or moral objections or conflicts with abortion in general.
- I'm incredibly independent: was then, am now, and had gone through things far more challenging than an abortion on my own before that time. To boot, I'd seen firsthand some pretty awful instances of child poverty and ill health, and knew that would have been a possibility at some point had I had a kid then (and, in fact, barely two years past then, I nearly ended up homeless, so it could well have been where we wound up), so the endless array of realities were very apparent to me.
- I also knew very well, by virtue of being a teacher, what life with kids was like, and didn't then -- and again, haven't yet, either, almost 15 years after the fact -- feel like I had to have my own kids to have kids in my life, be valuable to them.
And all of that and more is a LOT of stuff on my side per a positive experience, and a lot of stuff many women don't have.
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