I was browsing a message board on another website I frequent and there was a topic up there centered around journals and privacy. Looking it over made me curious, so I wanted to poll the general audience.
Parents: would you/have you read your children's journals? Why or why not?
Sons and Daughters: Has a parent or family member ever read a journal of yours? Reactions? If not, what do you think your response would be if they did?
At my end, my parents never went through my journals (that I know of, at any rate). I used to be paranoid about keeping them in my room, but after awhile I started leaving them out around the house and didn't worry about it overmuch. My mom always made it clear that I could come to her with anything, and I think having the lines of communication open made her less likely to snoop. My dad probably didn't and still doesn't know what a journal even is.
Honestly, I was always more worried about my younger sister going through my journals, but after awhile they seemed to lose their mysterious appeal in her eyes when it became obvious that I wasn't harboring any secret boyfriends.
Come to think of it, my older journals are still sitting on a shelf in my room back home. Maybe I should think about taking those back with me next time I visit...
Posts: 39 | From: United States | Registered: May 2006
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My sister used to always steal them when I was younger. But there wasn't anything bad in them then.
Now I keep mine in a lock box and always have the key. My parents would probably jump on them if they could, even though I'm in college. It's not that they don't trust me, but when I was younger (and now) I was really into writing and was always working on a new story and and they would ask to read them and I would say no. However, the second I put a notebook down they would take it. I thought it was rude of them to do that. I'm not sure if they were trying to support me but it always made me cry and they still would take it. I used to read them my stories but when they started taking the notebooks it was a total invasion and I haven't read them one sence. Not even ones for school.
So I knew once I started writing a real journal in high school I needed to lock it up.
If they read the 2nd one I would be in so much trouble. It took me and my boyfriend a year and a half to kiss but it all went downhill fast and I wrote a lot about that and my feelings about it and stuff. I'm pretty sure I would die, haha! I never drank or did drugs but the sex with my boyfriend would have killed them. I think. I've never really talked about sex with my parents so I'm not sure.... I'm in college now so maybe things will change.
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None of my relatives have gone through my journals. My 'friend' used to however. Bugged the crap out of me. My Grandma promised she never would after the 'friend' did that, and I trust her not to.
If one of my relatives read my journal? I'd burn them(...the journals). My journal's are very precious to me, because they are my private thoughts and I'nm afraid that if they read one of them, they knew everything.
Posts: 320 | From: South of something. | Registered: Aug 2006
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my sister reads my diary and always brings up what I wrote in it! and I HATE IT! because I said I kissed my friend at graduation and I think I actually like him and she read that and she wont let it go..serioulsey its stupid
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