I am seventeen years old and my boyfriend is sixteen turning seventeen. I met him online and me and my mom were going to go meet him and his mom who lived 45 mins away but my moms hip is bad and she couldnt move the day we were suppossed to be out there. So his mom accusses me of being a 40 year old perverted man and forbade me to call her son. This really hurt me, considering i was malested as a kid by a man who i sent to prison. but my boyfriend refused to listen to his mom and continued callin me and we met in secret twice. i finally ocnvinced him that telling his mom that we were together would be better for our relationship. but now that she knows, i think its worse. first she wont call my mom to meet us. then she says im trash and im 20 and shes never met me before. then she says he cant go anywhere with me until she meets me but she wont call to meet me. then she says she doesnt care what he does but he has to get a job so he can take me places then the next day she wants him to cut off all contact with me without telling me its over just 2 disappear out of my life without warnng but he wont. she wont give us a chance and then she verbally abuses him and he has also been physically abused before.
how can we help her see we need each other and allow us to be together?
-------------------- JustAmby427 Posts: 2 | From: california | Registered: Jun 2008
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Many of us have to deal with seemingly irrational parents or parents of partners at different times in our lives. I hope that, at least, you can see the concern that his mother has for her son. If I were someone contemplating meeting up with an online friend, I would be a bit wary of a seemingly random rain check, as well.
And really, when parents insist on intervening in that way, there is not much you can do. If his mother still refuses to speak with you or your mother or schedule a meeting, it's not too cool to meet in secret because those kinds of things fuel distrust, and no one wants that. However, if your boyfriend is being abused in his home, do urge him to seek help and get out of the situation.
For right now, I don't see much that you can do besides continue your relations online. Maybe when things die down a bit, his mother will become more reasonable.
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