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I am a 16 year old girl and am having trouble with my mom. We have a pretty good relationship as far as being nice and respecting each other goes, but this is actually the problem. I've been a "momma's girl" for a long time, barely ever lying and just being attached to her, kind of. I've never really been a very social butterfly (you know, having friends over every day and what not) but now I really want to change my life around and start being a more sociable person.

The problem is that I feel uncomfortable being a more mature and "grown up" person around her. The part the really makes me aggravated though is that when I do branch out and hang out with friends, she treats me like I'm defying her and doing bad things. (Which is completely inaccurate!) She tries to make me feel bad about things I do. I'm pretty sure she's doing it on purpose, but not certain. For this same reason, I don't think I could ever openly have a boyfriend and feel comfortable having him in the same house as her...

I recently got my license and have gone to some places with just one other friend and she seems to be OK with it, but it still feels awkward when I ask her if I can take the car and go somewhere. Will it just get better with time?

I'm not trying to make it seem like my mom is the bad guy; I understand this is partially a personal problem. Sorry this is so long, I just want some advice, please!

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It sounds like you and your mom are pretty close so have you tried talking to her about this? Telling her how you feel and asking her what her feelings are would be a great way to initiate the conversation.

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