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Controversy
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So i'm a bit worried, my boyfriend and I made some mistakes.

We had unprotected sex, he didn't ejaculate inside me but he was worried about precum, I know it has little sperm in it... what is the possibility of me being pregnant from that?

Before that, we had put the condom on the wrong way, he proceeded to put it on the right way and we had sex. Isn't that a pregnancy risk as well? If so is it worse than the first one?

I missed my period by 6 days now, i'm going to wait at least another week, sometimes my periods are late anyway.

How long should I wait to take a pregnancy test? Should I just take one this week..?

Thank you in advance

[ 08-29-2013, 12:16 PM: Message edited by: Controversy ]

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Heather
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If you engaged in intercourse unprotected, without condoms, but your boyfriend withdrew well before he ejaculated, or without ejaculating at all, while that present high STI risks, that method of pregnancy prevention -- withdrawal -- used typically is around 73-85% effective in one year, and used perfectly, is estimated to be around 96% effective in one year.

With the condom, by all means, that's not proper condom use. Check this out for more information on that: http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2013/06/27/this_way_not_that_way_avoiding_one_of_the_most_common_condom_oops

Since your period is already late, you can test now anytime. I'd also advise getting new STI tests in the next month or so, especially if you and your boyfriend haven't been sexually exclusive for at least six months AND both had new tests done before that time period began.

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Hi, pre cum can contain sperm in it so yes their is a chance with that, me personally I'm not sure about the second one. And aslong as its been two weeks since this incident you can take a test [Smile]

Best of luck

I'm sure people from the boards can help you with your worry better than I can but I thought I'd answer the questions I could hope you don't mind [Smile]

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Hmm... okay thank you for all the info, i'll read the article for sure. I'll probably head out and grab a test then.

I'll schedule for a Gyn visit too.. Thanks again

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Do you need any help talking with your boyfriend about how to use condoms properly, and assuring they are also used every single time?

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Yeah he was worried that it was a big chance, and I was too... I guess it was just the heat of the moment because I normally wouldn't do irresponsible things! We all make mistakes though, I also really don't want to worry him. thank you both
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And im not sure, I believe after this scare he wouldnt need me to talk to him... ive spoken to him already. If I need help i'll definitely ask
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If there is penetration, then, yes there is always a risk. And pre-cum has just a little amount of sperm in it. The chance that you're pregnant is pretty high, just wait for a few more days and take a test hun. Next time be careful.
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loopsyme: just for the record, pre-ejaculate is a fluid that most often does NOT contain sperm cells.

However, and this is why withdrawal is not 100% effective, even in perfect use, sometimes it *can* pick up trace sperm cells left in the urethra from a previous ejaculation. Perfect use of withdrawal is generally estimated to be around 96% effective in one year. That's less effective in perfect use than nearly any other method, but what that tells us is that, most likely, sperm cells are likely not present in pre-ejaculate more than around 4% of the time.

As well, telling Controversy her chance of pregnancy is pretty high isn't sound or square with the facts we have here, and is only likely to scare her, probably for no good reason.

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That really did just scare me.. haha but thanks, and thank you for calming me again Heather [Smile]
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Sorry about that, Controversy. Sometimes we just delete posts with misinformation, but when we can, we try to instead leave them and just correct them so everyone gets the opportunity to learn new things.

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