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vicky00
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Hello ladies,

Please help me out because I'm so nervous and agitated
My question is simple - could I be pregnant? I'll tell you my story as accurately as I can:

I'm on birth control (Marvelon) for 2 years. I take my pills regularly and as directed.
Last time I had sex was last year, on 28 Nov. My currently-ex boyfriend ejaculated in me (for the first and only time).
2 weeks later I had my withdrawal period. It came one day later than usual - I was scared that I might be pregnant so I took a pregnancy test (urine one) that same day, and it was negative.
Around 5 weeks after I took another pregnancy test because my breasts started to hurt - it came back negative & my breast stopped hurting (they were sore just before my 7 days pill-break). My withdrawal bleeding was slightly lighter, but it came, and I also had cramps.

Then I started to urinate more frequently and I freaked out (this only lasted for a few days as well. I took more than 5 pregnancy tests, and they all came back negative.

Last week - 9 weeks after that last sexual contact - I went to my gynecologist for an ultrasound and a pap smear (I was scheduled for that). I had a transvaginal ultrasound done - and she said that my uterus length is 7,8 cm, that my endometrium is very thin (she said this is a sign that my BC is working well), that my ovaries are also small, and that she can see some urine in my bladder.

Now I'm having m withdrawal bleeding again... but it's lighter than usual (I usually have heavy periods with cloths; now I'm bleeding, but not very much). I had cramps and took some advil for that, but I'm still scared because I'm not experiencing a more intense bleeding.

Now... can I say for sure that after that ultrasound, I'm not pregnant? It was done during a supposed-11th week... so I guess something should have came up... right?

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Heather
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Welcome to the boards, vicky. [Smile]

We ask that before users post a question like this, they first go through this thread: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027786.html

For users dealing with worries about pregnancy even after taking a test, or getting an ultrasound, even, we ask they look at this one first: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/007275.html

Can you read through one or both of those first, and then let us know what, if anything, you aren't understanding in those threads or feel you need? Thanks!

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vicky00
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Thank you! I read the posts/articles. Sincerely, all I wanted was for someone with experience to assure me that after all these test, I'm not pregnant. Maybe they weren't done well? I don't know...
I know it's more of a psychological problem, but I don't know who else to talk to. I'm scared because I'm not ready for a pregnancy, and I don't even have a partner next to me. I've stopped reading all those scary stories about undetected pregnancies because they cause more harm than good (as in offering you information)

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Heather
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You can be very sure that with a transvaginal ultrasound, had you been pregnant, it would have been seen on the ultrasound.

I'm glad you've stopped reading those stories: I hope you can recognize that most of them simply aren't true. They're instead usually wither urban legends or, when told first-person, are typically either just dishonest or missing some facts that would make clear that's not what actually happened.

Do you feel like, right now, this just isn't the time for you to have any kind of sex where there's even the teeniest-tiniest risk of pregnancy? If so, you know it's okay to just not have that kind of sex until you feel better about this, right?

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I haven't told my doctor anything about my scare before I had the ultrasound done, because at that point I wasn't scared at all that I might be pregnant (there are times when I worry, and times when I don't even think about it). I assumed that at 11 weeks (of pregnancy) she will say if she sees something odd (like a pregnancy). I have a photo with my ovaries and my uterus - and it looks empty to me. Of course now, I'm not a specialist... but it's all gray, without any black spots.

And those stories... my oh my, actually they made me so scared. People saying that there's "always a chance" (for everything - a chance to get negative tests, a chance for an ultrasound not to work well etc.) - I truly believe that most of them are missing some facts. I broke down crying while reading some of them.

Right now I'm not having sex. on 28th Nov was the last time I had sex. I'd like to have a stable partner for that - it would make things much easier - so I'll be waiting until a future relationship for that [Smile]

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Heather
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You don't have to ask for a doctor to look for a pregnancy with a transvaginal ultrasound. I'm not sure why that was even done for you, but you can be sure that if you had been pregnant, it's something an ultrasound tech or doctor will see with that ultrasound. And at 11 weeks? Someone would literally have to be blind to miss a pregnancy on an ultrasound, or have no clue how to read ultrasounds at all.

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FYI, a LOT of people post their ultrasounds online, regular people, not just antichoice orgs (who frequently post ultrasounds from later in pregnancies and say they're from earlier).

So, you can get a good idea of what an ultrasound at 11 weeks of pregnancy looks like just by looking at a page of images on Google of them. Check it: https://www.google.com/search?q=ultrasound+11+weeks&hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&hs=m8u&tbo=u&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&tbm=isch&source=univ&sa=X&ei=U4oWUcmwC-bOyAGh2YHwBg& ved=0CDMQsAQ&biw=1104&bih=801

You can then see why I am not concerned your doctor somehow missed something. At 11 weeks we are looking at much more than just a "black spot," as you can see.

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vicky00
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Thank you [Smile]

I have a history of dysmenorrhea & menorrhagia, and that's why birth control were prescribed to me in the first place.
One year ago I moved out of my hometown, and I had to switch to new doctors. My new gynecologist just wanted to see if my ovaries are fine after 2 years of BC, and that's why she eventually scheduled me for an ultrasound.

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Ah, that makes sense.

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Thanks again for assuring me that I didn't have to ask my doctor to look for a pregnancy - I can see why.

I was able to see live, on a big screen, everything she saw - and there wasn't anything like in those ultrasound pictures.

Phew... it's time to stop worrying now and concentrate on other REAL problems. Thank you again.

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I thought it sounded like you didn't have an idea of what we'd generally see at 11 weeks. Glad that helped. [Smile]

You're welcome.

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Clara Taylor
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Hey vickyoo!

I'm glad I checked your thread and read your story. We're on the very same boat. Like you, I've had periods and ultrasounds and bloodwork done (not to mention dozens of home tests) come back negative... and I'm still worried.

So here's a brief version of my story. Mid-december '12 I had sex with my boyfriend. I was on the pill but took two tableta a few hours late. I experienced unusual spotting a few days later. I went to the doctors and had a total of 5 blood tests done and all were negative. The last one done 5 weeks after sex - it should be more than conclusive! I also had 3 ultrasounds done (the last 7 weeks after sex) and all showed nothing. Like your doctor, mine told me my lining was very thin and that I couldn't be pregnant, even if I was less far along. I took some 30 home pregnancy tests. All were negative but after a while I started doubting whether or not I was doing them right. Also had two withdrawal bleedings ever since, on the expected dates. Slightly lighter but still normal. All 7 doctors I saw, in total, assured me I wasn't pregnant. But I'm still worried it might be undetected and that in 8 months I'll end up with a baby in my arms!

Pretty much like you, I went online reading stories of women who only found out they were pregnant very late on. Those stories are everywhere. Mostly on Yahoo Answers but also on pregnancy forums. There's ALWAYS somebody saying it is possible against all scientific evidence. Some even claim it in first person. The story is pretty much always the same: "I always tested negative on HPTs/ I had all bloodwork come back negative/ I still had my period while pregnant / he doctor didn't see the baby on the ultrasound/ the doctor told me I wasn't pregnant.... and today my son's 7 years old". Reading this made me go crazy. I have developped a major anxiety disorder because of this. I take pregnancy tests compulsively and I'm probably still seeing a new doctor for yet another ultrasound this following week. Though I know I'm not pregnant... I'm just obsessive-compulsive at the moment.

My best advice is to stay away from the internet when it comes to this situation. If your doctor said "no", you're on the clear. [Smile]

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