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Melli*
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I did not have intercourse with the man. However there was some minor genital touching - as in he pushed his wet boxers against my vulva for a few seconds. He tried to push inside; I kept pulling away since I did not want unprotected intercourse. I was expecting my period on the 23rd (or 21st) and I still have not gotten it. How likely are my chances of pregnancy? I hear a woman can become pregnant even when intercourse is not involved.

If It helps, ever since I've became sexually active in May of this year - my cycles have been irregular. It's only recently in October that they've started become normal again. It stayed normal through October and November. Just now, after doing foreplay with the male, my menstrual is about 8 days late.

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HI Melli* and welcome to Scarleteen,

Can you please take a look at this information about pregnancy risks? If you still have questions after reading this, come on back and we'll talk about them. [Smile]

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027786.html

Thanks.

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Melli*
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I read it before my post was made. I'm just curious if I actually have a chance at pregnancy before I test. What are my chances, involving precum on the vulva?
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In your post above, you said that he was wearing his boxers while there was genital contact. Am I understanding that correctly?

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Melli*
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Yes. His boxers were wet with precum, I'm assuming this since they were like that before he touched me.
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As you read in the articles, pregnancy risks don't exist if there is one or more layer of clothing between genitals. In other words, in order for there to be a pregnancy risk, either one of two things needs to happen:
1) There needs to be contact between a bare penis and a bare vulva--vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, or rubbing the genitals together.
2) Contact between freshly ejaculated semen and a bare vulva.vulva.

You are not describing either of these scenarios.

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Melli*
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So even though his boxers were drenched with precum and it was rubbing on my bare vulva, there is absolutely no chance of pregnancy?

I hear you can get pregnant from precum but is what I'm describing and thinking, a very rare case to actually happen? I heard about women becoming pregnant by precum and not actually letting the male ejaculate inside them (ex; the 'pull out' method).

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It would be highly unlikely.

If someone is having intercourse and using withdrawal, like you described, and someone becomes pregnant,. it's going to be because they partner with did not withdraw on time, so did, in fact, ejaculate inside them, or ejaculated directly on their genitals.

For a pregnancy to happen, there was to be direct contact with semen. It just can't happen otherwise.

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Alright. It's more likely that my period is irregular and late once again, than an actual pregnancy without intercourse?

I'm not on birth control - I'm against anything like that being injected in my body. I regularly use condoms and have been successful with all attempts with them.

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That's what I'd say, yes.

Do you feel like you feel okay using condoms alone? One reason I ask is that a) not all birth control methods require any kind of injection, and 2) sometimes people don't get that with hormonal methods, the "something like that" is really only synthetic versions of the same hormones you already have in your body.

And, of course, even for people for whom those methods aren't the thing they want the most, they want a pregnancy, or to worry about pregnancy, a lot less.

At the same time, if you want to keep on using condoms alone, maybe a chat with your partner about things like not engaging ion this kind of activity, which you know worries you, might be all you need? Like agreeing that everyone's wearing undergarments for things, and if one of you isn't, and genital-to-genital contact, even indirectly, is involved, it's time to put on a condom?

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Yes. I do not allow any genital contact, unless a condom is involved. My partner got carried away and pushed his boxers against my bare vulva - and since I kept hearing about precum pregnancies - that is when I began to get concerned. I am not financially capable of a child at this age and cannot imagine raising one at only nineteen years old. A condom is absolutely necessary and needed if activity is to happen. My partner and I are no longer together; he is going through some personal issues and has cut all contact with me. He has been 'sober' for 8 months and may have relapsed. I will not go into further detail.

I understand that not all birth control is injecting substances into the body - but I still do not know the long term effects those synthetic items are putting into my body. I may speak a lot of professionals about this, before I consider letting it become a part of my life as I want to know that it is safe.

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Well, with most methods of hormonal birth control, we literally have decades of research to know about safety as well as efficacy.

But no one method of contraception, or class of methods, is right for everyone, and by all means, no one has to use hormonal methods to have highly effective birth control. For example, combining condoms with a cervical barrier gives you the same level of protection that say, something like a depo-provera injection does.

I'm sorry to hear about the troubles with your partner.

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Thank you.

According to the ovulation calendar I have, I'm about ten days late for my menstrual. Are you positive that no pregnancy could occur with what I've done with my partner? I feel as though I should test to make sure, but I also don't want to waste unnecessary money (I've done it before). Ever since I've become sexually active, my menstruals have been irregular - as in I would get it one month then missed the next. This has always caused pregnant scares for me - the worst was when I went two months without one. However, in October amd November, I was regular for both months. Now, after the activity on the 14th, it is not here at all. Could this be a factor for it being late as well - more than pregnancy? I'm a bit concerned and worried.

I'm sorry if I continue to repeat myself. I just want to reassure myself - and give you more information as well.

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If you're ten days late for your period, and worried about a pregnancy, then I'd say it's past time to just take a pregnancy test.

Like I said, pregnancy in this situation is not at all likely, but staying afraid like this when you could have the answer in literally about three minutes after taking a test doesn't strike me as sound. Buying a test seems like a smart investment for you to me.

Per the lateness, though, it sounds like your cycles are often irregular.

(Also, an ovulation calendar isn't likely going to be helpful to you if a) it's not asking for cervical mucus or basal temps, the only ways we can accurately predict ovulation, and b) if your cycles are irregular.)

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Alright. I was also wondering, I've had regular menstruals all my life so why is it now, after I became sexually active, that they've become irregular?

I spoke to my mother about this - and she stated that it was my hormones being unbalanced. They've been like this for seven months so far.

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Well, one thing I'm hearing you say is that there's been a lot of stress afoot, both with pregnancy scares and what sounds like an unstable partner, things which each tend to cause a lot of stress.

Or, it could be coincidental -- about a shift in your cycle, which will happen often throughout our lives -- or about something different altogether, like a change in weight or how much or how little you're eating, etc.

"Unbalanced hormones" are often layman (or laywoman!) speak for "Something is wrong with your menstrual cycle, but I don't know what." In reality, an imbalance with testosterone and/or estrogen tends to cause a lot more symptoms for people with that really going on than wonky periods.

Have you yet started getting your regular sexual healthcare, like pap smears and bimanual exams, which you likely need by now anyway?

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Yes. I had my first pap smear in June.

What are bimanual exams?

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A bimanual exam is where a doctor uses their hands, one on the abdomen, one inside the vagina, to check your uterus.

That pap and exam back in June: did they suggest anything might be up with your reproductive system or hormones then? If not, you can likely rest assured it's all working just fine, unless something massive has changed since then (and simply engaging in sex, itself, isn't anything like that, since that can't change your body unless it results in an infection, injury or a pregnancy)

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She said nothing.
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So, you can safely assume that's because she didn't find anything to indicate any problems.

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Yes. I'm just a bit concerned as I had regular menstruals both two months ago - and now all of a sudden it's irregular again. This can happen without pregnancy occurring and to think I am pregnant seems a little silly since there is barely any chance? ~
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If you remain concerned about this late period, perhaps it is worthwhile for your peace of mind to take a pregnancy test, even though the risk from the activities you described is extremely low. Irregular periods over months are not a sign of pregnancy.

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