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jordchenggg
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hey guys i read thru those few links while waiting to be confirmed as a member but i have one final question. sounds really stupid i know and im very sorry if it has indeed been answered in some way in those links. im trying hard to read it but for some reason it doesnt seem to give answer to my question. or rather i still dont feel safe.

if it has been answered im really sorry but please still help answer me?

my gf and i were having 69. i didnt come but we kissed after that. a little whiles later we washed our hands before we started touching each other down there just in case we had precum on our hands but we forgot to rinse our mouths. i went down on her but didnt stick my tongue in. shes now really worried that my precum got into her vagina. am i right to comfort her by saying its impossible for her to get pregnant?

*i do realise it was stupid of us to be so careless. wont be doing that again.

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Redskies
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Hi, jordchenggg, and welcome to Scarleteen!

You're correct that there is no risk of pregnancy from what you describe. Quoting from one of the articles on this site, "MYTH: Swallowing after oral sex then kissing before switching partners presents a pregnancy risk as the sperm can be passed from mouth to mouth to genitals.

FACT: Because there’s no direct connection between your mouth and your genitals, women swallowing semen aren’t at a risk for pregnancy – though they are at risk of contracting an STI. Sperm tend to be pretty delicate as well, so they would not survive a trip from one person’s mouth to another and still be able to present a pregnancy risk by then being passed to the genitals through oral sex."

And here's the link to the whole article: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/reproduction/misconception_mayhem_separating_pregnancy_and_pregnancy_risk_myths_from_facts

If your girlfriend's worried that she might become pregnant from this, does she have enough information about what can and can't create a pregnancy, and does she feel comfortable about having the kinds of sex you're both having? Too, might she be put more at ease by reading the information on the site (if she hasn't already had a look and if you haven't already suggested it to her [Smile] ) or asking questions on the boards herself, as well as hearing from you? Sometimes, it can feel more secure to hear the information from specialist sources rather than from partners or friends.

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jordchenggg
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hi thanks for the reply! im sorry it was indeed found on the site.
i figure perhaps the reason most people still feel the need to ask is not because the articles arent informative enough (they certainly are informative! great job on it btw!). its probably cause we feel like our situation might not be covered under what the article mentioned.

thing is we both feel comfortable with what we are doing and we are avoiding pregnancy by not engaging in actual genital sex but in oral and other forms. we're jst not sure if pre-cum and cum cld accidentally cause pregnancy even if we arent having actual genital sex.

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Robin Lee
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A lot of people express the concern that you're expressing: that their situation doesn't fall under the information provided in our articles.

Thing is: there's only a certain number of ways that pregnancy can happen.

It might help to think of it like this:

Pregnancy can happen if:

1. A bare vulva (that's the outside of a woman's genitals) or vagina comes into contact with a bare penis, either through rubbing or through intercourse. (Anal intercourse without a condom can also pose a pregnancy risk, though the risks are lower than for vaginal intercourse).
2. Freshly ejaculated semen comes into contact with the woman's vulva. Note here that this generally means ejaculating directly onto the vulva.

So, basically, if bare genitals are not coming into contact with each other (and you'd know if they were, right?) you're not looking at pregnancy risks.

Does this help?

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Redskies
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(jordchenggg: certainly no need to apologise to me; most of my good and reliable sex education comes from this site's information, so particularly for "technical" things like pregnancy (non)risks, I often feel that it's most appropriate for me to quote the site's own materials, and that I couldn't say it better if I tried. Also, happy to help. [Smile] )

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jordchenggg
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Hey Robin & Redskies,

Thanks for all the information! it really does help alot!
really appreciate it (:

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Robin Lee
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You're most welcome. [Smile]

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