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TheWorrier
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So, my boyfriend and I had sex on the 2nd and 5th of November, which I think was around my ovulation time (I'm not entirely sure). We used a condom both times, and he only ejaculated into the condom on November 2nd.

Two days ago (December 18), I got what appears to be my period, which is right on time, I believe. However, it's scaring me because it is light, and I only need to use regular size tampons, which is unusual for me. My last period was like this, and came four days earlier than normal, but I took two pregnancy tests and both came back negative.

My question is, could it just be hormones, or pregnancy? I'm sixteen, so I suppose it'd be normal for me to have irregular period cycles here and there...Also, during the time I was PMS-ing, I noticed that when I squeezed my nipples, a small amount of white, pus-like substance came out, which is not normal for me, and honestly, is the main reason I'm scared. My boyfriend's not worried because we used a condom, but I'm getting extremely paranoid. What do you think?

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Pus coming from the nipples, if that is what happened, is an indication of a possible breast infection, not of pregnancy. If that's going on, I'd suggest seeing your general doctor about that, okay?

Any time someone has the kind of sex that can create a pregnancy, pregnancy is a possibility. The issue there isn't if it is, but how much of a possibility.

If you used condoms for all direct genital contact and did so properly, and the condoms did not slip off or break, you can be very certain pregnancy did not occur. When condoms fail, we know they failed, either because they weren't worn at all, weren't worn for all contact, slipped off or broke.

It sounds like the last two periods, your periods have gotten a bit lighter. It's actually pretty common for periods to get lighter as you go through puberty and move into adulthood, so that wouldn't be a cause for concern all by itself.

Do you feel okay having intercourse with just condoms alone? Sounds like you don't, so if that's so, we're certainly happy to talk with you about other methods you could use with your condoms. [Smile]

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TheWorrier
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Thank you so much [Smile] My mom and I are setting up an appointment for me to see a doctor so I can get on a hormonal contraceptive, and I'll be sure to ask him/her about the issue with my breasts.
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Fantastic! (And go, Mom!)

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Okay, I have an update.

I took a pregnancy test (just to make sure), and it looked negative...sort of. Before I used it, there was a negative sign already on the test. I used it anyway, and within the 2-10 minutes, there was a very dark blue negative line, along with a faint, thin, almost nonexistent positive line. I read the pamphlet with the test, and it said if the line was the same thickness, then it didn't matter if the color was lighter or not.

But this line was way thinner than the negative line, and barely showed up. There was no other color, not even a very light blue where the positive line should've been. I'm so confused, and scared, and I really hope it isn't a positive. Please help me!

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Did the instructions say what the test should look like before use? Because if it already looked like there was a result before you even took it, sounds to me like it was defective.

If in doubt, most tests have a toll-free number listed for help questions: does yours? Can you call and see what they have to say about that?

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I called and was told that the test result was invalid because the positive line was not the same thickness as the negative line. Still, I'm really scared, even if pregnancy is unlikely..
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I don't suppose they offered you a refund?

I know this blows, but clearly you're going to need to get another test to take if you want to take one. Again, pregnancy here seems very unlikely, but if you want a test to be sure, you'll have to give this another go.

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They did, but I declined. And I doubt I am. I'm just freaking out at the idea, I suppose.
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If this is really freaking you out, would it be possible for you to get another test to be on the safe side? It may help ease your mind too just to see.

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TheWorrier
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But would it be worth it? I mean, I had a period for the right amount of time...the only thing worrying me at this point is a bit of nausea that I've had for the past day or so. And even then that goes away when I don't think about it. All in all, I don't know if worrying about this is worth it.
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If you think getting another test would reduce your stress and anxiety, then it sounds to me as if it could be worth it. Would spending the money on another test make you more stressed out?

At this point it sounds like it's mostly about your well-being and personal comfort.

What would make you feel less anxious at this point in time?

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A negative pregnancy test, but more importantly someone to talk to. I hate going through this every time I have sex, and I'm afraid to mention any of this to my mom.
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Well, we're not there in person, but we're definitely here for you to talk to any time! [Smile]

The first part of what you said would make you feel better: Do you think you will get another test kit to ease your mind?

Also, I saw above that your Mom and you are planning to get you an appointment with a doctor to discuss hormonal birth control. Sounds like your Mom is on board with this, which is great. How do you think it would be to talk to her about your fears, or does she not know that you're sexually active?

I'm also wondering: if you feel afraid every time you have sex, do you think it might be worth it to change your sexual activity until you have birth control methods that make you feel more secure? That's a big question, I know, but intercourse isn't the only kind of sex.

If I'm throwing a lot at you, let me know. [Smile]

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She doesn't know about me having sex. I want to tell her, but I'm not sure how to bring it up without her being hurt. Also, I think I might get another test if I feel myself getting worse. Right now, I really want to try to cope with this constant anxiety without having to buy a test.

As for if I'm even ready for sex, I think it's safe to say that's a no. My boyfriend and I have agreed to hold off for awhile, at least until I have been on the pill for awhile.

Lastly, and I know this might sound immature, but I want to know if anyone sees this as an imminent pregnancy threat, or if I'm fine this cycle. Any comments are appreciated, and I thank everyone for all of y'alls help!

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The risk of pregnancy from the above, if indeed there was any risk at all, is very minimal, Of course you can take a pregnancy test again if it will make you feel better. When you go to the doctor's office they will most likely give you a pregnancy test as part of their routine testing for someone that is going to go on birth control, so you can just wait until your appointment if you're comfortable with that.

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Thank you! I feel a lot better about the situation. [Smile]
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I'm really sorry a out this, but I have another question that is seriously bugging me.

Is pregnancy likely if my boyfriend and I were naked and rubbing against each other--no ejaculation--had sex with a condom (still no ejaculation), then rubbed on each other some more, ultimately resulting in no ejaculation.

Basically, the head of his penis did not come into contact with my vulva or vagina unless covered with a condom. It was only the shaft of his penis. How likely is pregnancy?

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Genital rubbing does pose a pregnancy risk. With no ejaculation the risk would be small. This also poses an STI risk. Are you and your boyfriend up to date on STI tests? You really should use the condom for all genital contact.

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About how small would the risk be? I mean, there was pre-cum, but he had not ejaculated beforehand, so there wouldn't be any sperm in it...
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If he peed before his last ejaculation then the risk is very tiny. I would say you don't really have much of a risk here, but I would make sure to just use the condom for all genital contact in the future just to be safest.

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Okay, thank you! I am so glad I found this site, y'all are the best. [Smile]
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