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Edhelino
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I guess I'll start off with the details.
My last period started on April 24 and ended on April 28.
I had protected sex on April 30, so 2 days after my period ended.
The thing is, he was only in me for a few minutes; less than 10.
He NEVER came.
I DO have irregular periods.
Right now, my only symptom is heavy cramps.
I have been cramping for about 5 days now.
I usually have spotting, but since I don't right now, I'm scared that I might be pregnant.
What do you guys think?

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Heather
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I think that as we've been expressing since you first came around the boards, it'd be really wise for you to rethink being sexually active, for your own mental health and well-being. Clearly, even when you're using methods to reduce your risk of pregnancy, you just don't feel okay about this. I assume you can't like feeling this way, given all the posts just like this one, and I know panicking all the time feels pretty awful to everyone.

So, wouldn't you like to make different choices so you didn't have to keep going through this?

Per usual, if a condom was used properly, AND your partner also didn't ejaculate, pregnancy is incredibly, incredibly unlikely.

However, heavy cramping for five days when you don't have a sound reason for it -- like having a period -- is something you really want to see a doctor about. Who knows what it's from, and it's not going to be about pregnancy, but you should find out what it is to make sure it's not something you need care for, okay?

lastly, I made an exception, but we really need users to respect our limits and boundaries here, just like we'd respect yours. Please review this response to your last post: http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/10/t/002283/p/1.html#000000

So, this really is going to be the last time we talk you through a pregnancy scare. No more. But what we CAN help talk you through around this is learning to make choices more in line with what you actually can handle and want to handle.

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Edhelino
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Yeah I'm sorry for posting so much.
Yes you're right, I don't like this feeling at all.
Well thanks anyway.
I hear that if you have sex right after you're period you won't get pregnant.
I hope that's correct.
Also I hope these cramps are because my period's coming.

Thanks.

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Heather
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There is no time in the cycle when there is no risk of pregnancy. Only times when it is more or less likely. However, for most people, right after a period is one of the MORE likely times, not the least.

But again, if you used a condom properly, and withdrawal, that's a non-issue.

But let's not waste this opportunity, okay? You don't want to keep feeling like this. And yet, you keep making the same choices, again and again, which land you in the same place. So, how about we talk seriously about helping you make some different ones which are likely to have a different result that does NOT have you scared all the time?

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Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
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