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Edhelino
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Yesterday me & my boyfriend had sex for the first time.
We were both virgins.
He had popped my hymen before, but that was the last time we ever tried because it hurt so much.
Anyways, I'm really paranoid of being pregnant.
He did wear a condom, but it still scares me.
At first I was on top, then we went to military position.
I'm scared that while I was on top, his "liquids" might have slid down the condom, and when he got on top, his "liquids" might have gotten on the outside of the condom & inside me.
Can this be possible.
He never "came" or anything.
Also, can I ask, why does it hurt when he goes in.
Like when he is going inside, it hurts but once it's in it doesn't.
Why?
But can someone tell me if I'm at risk for pregnancy?
Please help!
After we were done I put water inside the condom to make sure there were no holes & it was good.
:'/

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Stephanie_1
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Just to be clear on a few things, the vaginal corona (formerly called the hymen) rarely ever actually breaks. Rather, it wears away over time, because of discharge and menstruation. And save with force, it doesn't even break during sex, rather stretches.

All the same, it sounds like from the last experience being painful you were a bit nervous it may be so again. Pain with entry can come from different reasons, things like not being fully aroused and relaxed, being nervous so you tense up, not using a good water-based lubricant.

Per risk - condoms are made to contain pre-ejaculate AND ejaculate. If a condom fits correctly and you left room at the base for ejaculation as you're supposed to, it didn't slip or break, then you can surely relax and know it did its job. Also? You don't need to ever fill a condom with water,if they break they tend to shred (like a balloon that's popped) so you'll know.

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Edhelino
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Thank you. I need to try to relax. I don't think I'm emotionally ready for this. It's so much stress and I just did this yesterday! Thanks.
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Stephanie_1
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If you're not feeling ready fully, don't be afraid to say so and take a few steps back to what you are feeling ready for.

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