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brittney111
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I'm a college student who is in a 3 year monogamous relationship (we're the first 'real' relationship either of us has had, and we've both tested neg for any STIs) and my boyfriend and I know that we want to 'save' vaginal intercourse until we're married because we're both virgins and we just feel it is right to wait.

Anyway, although we don't have vaginal sex, we do masturbate eachother manually and orally and we get a great deal of satisfaction from that. [Smile] Since we know we're clear from STIs, we don't use any barriers. I'm always conscious of making sure our naked genitalia never touches and he typically manually stimulates me first to be safe.

For some reason, over the past couple of months I keep getting worried that I might be pregnant. My mind is telling me that I'm silly because (1) he has never ejaculated on my vulva (2) our genitals have never touched and (3) we always wipe/clean our hands before having any contact with my genitals if he has ejaculated, etc.

In October, my period was due in the last week of the month, but it didn't show up until Nov 2- I was about a week late. I was basically freaking out, worrying that somehow we hadn't been careful, etc..

I got my period Nov 2, and then basically we went through the same thing again and I was stressing when my next period was a couple days late. It came Dec 10 and was pretty heavy as usual and lasted about a week. Now, I know this doesn't sound logical at all, but I guess I just need reassurance or something... is there any way I could be pregnant and still having 'periods' that seem to have the same duration as they normally do? I have been feeling light headed and bloated/full for the past few days and I feel like my mind is starting to play tricks on me.

What should I do? I shouldn't be worried about pregnancy, should I? [Confused]

Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer me, and sorry for the length of this post.

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Heather
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You know, sounds to me like even if you don't have a strong physical need to use latex barriers for the kinds of sex you're having, you have a strong emotional need to do so. In other words, adding some extra safeties would probably leave you feeling a whole lot better and provide you with sexual experiences which are pleasant during AND before. See what I mean?

If you have not had any direct genital or fluid contact to your genitals, then no, you haven't had viable risks. If you're having your normal periods, you also aren't pregnant.

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Heather
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(FYI? You do still have to worry about bacterial infections and the lot, so what's best per his hands before manual intercourse for you is simply that he washes them, okay?)

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(Welcome to Scarleteen ! [Smile] )

You just can't be pregnant and have a period at the same time. That's just not possible. Plus, you've said it yourself, you didn't even have any pregnancy risk to begin with. So really, you just can't be pregnant so just try to relax, okay ?

There are a lot of possible causes for a period either being late or missed. Stress, change in your diet, an increase in the amount of exercice you do are all possible culprits among other things. It might just be too that your cycle is just irregular, especially if you've had your period for less than 5 years. Here, you might want to check this out:
MIA or DUDE: Where's my period ?

(Edited: Mindmeld ! [Smile] )

[ 12-31-2007, 12:54 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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brittney111
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Thank you for your responses, I really appreciate it. It is good to hear that I'm being a worry wart and I need to relax. My boyfriend has been saying that all along, but I felt like I needed an objective opinion. [Wink] It's kind of ironic how worrying/stressing about the idea of pregnancy can delay your period, causing you to stress more... etc. Again, thank you. This site seems like a great resource for men & women of all ages, and I wish I'd known about it sooner!
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