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Aria51
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Since ultrasounds are quite common, I got to wondering; how many of you moms / moms-to-be found out / will find out what sex your baby would be before it was born?

I wasn't intending to find out what Evan was going to be, but while the ultrasound was being done, he had one of those Spontaneous Baby Erections (anyone who's changed a little boy's diaper knows what I'm talking about) so it was pretty obvious what we were seeing. I didn't completely trust the ultrasound, though; right before he was born, I went out and bought a little dress for him just in case.

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i had to know the sex of both of my babies. i dont like surprises also i wanted to decorate the rooms and buy the clothes and everything. if i ever have another baby i will want to know the sex of that baby too.
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I'm not a mom, but maybe someday I will be... and I'd want a complete surprise. That way hopefully I could cut down on the number of sex-stereotyped gifts at baby showers. I would go ahead and decorate and buy toys and clothes before the baby came-- it would be an interesting exercise to test my own convictions about gender roles. I mean... so what if my son ended up with a pink room and a bunch of dolls?
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I would like to know because I am basically the kind of person who cannot sit on a surprise. I have to know or I won't be able to sleep.

But I agree with Rizzo on the gender stereotyping thing. I am wrapping my child, boy or girl, in a purple blanket. No pink or blue for me, thanks very much. Purple = Royalty ain't it?


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Aria51
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Hehe. I took my son to the toystore to pick out a toy, and held up a red car-looking thing and a pink doll - they cost the same, so it didn't matter to me which he had.
He looked from one to the other, laughed, and chose the doll.

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Aww, that's adorable Aria

I think i would have to know the sex of the baby. I want to be really prepared ... At least for the first one. I think i'd want the second to be a surprise tho


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Surprise please. And I'll buy my child, whatever it is, kitchen toys, and a little farm creature set, and plastic tools and building blocks, and dress it for comfort and ease-of-movement. That's what I got, and I think I did okay with it.
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There's this story that was in Ms. (way back when, when they had their Free to Be You and Me stories...) about a child that was raised with no gender...named X. I thought it was such a neat story, though actually doing that would be quite infeasible in this world.
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I'm 18 weeks pregnant and don't plan on finding out the sex... I love surprises, but it would be a hell of alot easier if I knew what I was buying for...

I have major boy vibes, and lately I've been buying ALOT of blue... It's like I just KNOW it's a boy.


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Like some of you guys, I can't take suprises. I'm the type of girl who shakes presents weeks before the Holiday Season. I'd x-ray them if I could.

So, waiting to find out the sex of my child would NOT be an option for me.


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I think I would want to know the sex of my baby.

On a side note, my Mom got ultrasounds for both me and my sister to determine our sexes, and both times the doctors said we were going to be boys. Two different doctors!! My Dad fell off the stool he was standing on when they pulled my sister out. And he was equally shocked when they pulled me out as well.

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being that i'm pregnant right now, i feel like i really want to know. i don't like surprises.. i always HAVE to know.

but i'm really thinking i have a boy here.

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well, i'm not an expectant mother, but i'm gonna post anyways. I think i would want it to be a surprise, but knowing me, i would prolly end up making the docter tell me. heheh, i guess we'll find out in 10-15 years.

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I -wanted- to know if it was a boy or a girl, but every time i had an ultrasound the sneaky kid was hiding it!
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Aria51
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Any new opinions?
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We checked out the ultrasound when I was pregnant and it was fairly obvious she was a girl. In fact, the day I had that first ultrasound, we decided to change her name from Deanna Lynett, which neither of us was crazy about, to Hayley Deann. We plan on finding out the gender of our next child, whenever that may be. We've got a boy name all picked out, so we'll need to know ahead of time in case we have to come up with a girl name instead. Actually, we've got a girl name that we like already, but aren't entirely sure we'd go with it when the time comes.

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I found out in advance the sex of my child. This will probably sound really horrible, but I just DID NOT want to have a boy. If I was pregnant with a son, I felt it necessary to find out ASAP so that I could deal with my weird feeling about not being able to love a boy and all that kind of stuff. Being told that I was having a girl was SUCH a huge relief. Of course I still worried up until the day of the delivery that the U/S was wrong... but I'm glad I found out. Finding out the sex of your kid before s/he is born does not realy rob you of much suprise after the birth. Even though I'd known for 4 months that I was having a girl, when the doctor told me "open your arms and hold your daughter!" right as she popped out of me, I was still shocked and overjoyed. Plus, there is still so much to find out that goes so much deeper than gender... what color eyes the baby has, who's hair and features, etc.
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I was kinda the opposite. I didn't have strong feelings against having a girl, but I really wanted a boy. I've always wanted to have a boy and then a girl. So, yeah, finding out early on that I was having a girl helped me put away those boy feelings and get used to the idea of having a girl. Now it's really hard to see myself as the mom of a boy! And I agree that it really doesn't take any of the surprise away. There's always the possibility that the ultrasound could be misleading and you could be wrong. Plus there are so many other things that you still don't know about your baby, even if you do know the gender.

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Aria51
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I competely understand what you guys are saying about wanting to find out if you'd have an x when you wanted a y (subtle pun there hehe ). When I found out I was having a boy, I was devistated. Seriously. I got up from the table, excused myself, and went and bawled in the bathroom for about 20 minutes. It was as if this little girl I'd been imagining myself having had died -- and in a way she -- the dream of her -- did. I felt as though I'd lost a child.

Then I felt guilty about not wanting the boy I was having. I had nothing against little boys, but that dream of having a daughter was so important to me at the time.

After the US we went to the mall, and I bought a couple of little outfits for him. One was a pair of blue corduroy overalls with a bear fishing on the bib, and the other was a little suit with khaki shorts, a blue oxford shirt, a tie, and suspenders. Somehow having those things for him helped me deal with my initial disappointment.

And I eventually did get over that disappointment. I have my son, and he's great.


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When my partner and I have our next baby we are not going to tell anyone if it's a boy or girl for a few weeks, as a sort of experiment in making people deal with a child that is non-gendered.
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If I ever have a daughter, she will never wear pink. I hate that color, it's way too girly. Purple for her!
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