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CallMeBuffChick
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Well I was just wondering how many of you ladies want your whole family in the delivery room when you give birth? Or even someone else along with the father of the baby? I know today some hospitals allow more then one person in the room. I remember when my sister had her baby the room was huge! Everybody and their uncles were in there. But or course all of them but five us acually watch it. The rest of the famly stood behind the curtin cheering my sister on to Push... I know when my time comes I'm going to let who ever wants to watch in. Seeing the miracle of birth take place is a really spiritual thing to witness with your own eyes.

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Lin
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My best friends consists of these 3 girls and I definitely want them there. Female bonding and all that.

My hisband will definitely be there so I can clutch on to his hand and sqeeze his hand so tight his blood can't circulate. Hehe.

I'll probably ask him to film it as well. I think giving birth is the most wonderful, natural and intimate things in the world. While I would like to share it with everybody (the poor things), I think the actual birth is something I want to hold dear to myself with a select few.


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LilBlueSmurf
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I want my husband/bf (not sure if i want to get married or not), sis, my mom, his mom and my best friend ... that's it

Annnnd ... i also want to look into having a water birth. I think that's so kewl how they can just blop you in a tub or pool type thing and you can have the baby that way. Yup yup ... that's what i wanna do ...

That's YEARS from now tho ... hmm


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I don't know.....I guess I'd prefer to have a rather private birth. The thought of having a bunch of people around while I am giving birth (and screaming and in a pretty vulnerable yet strong situation anyway) just doesn't sound nice to me. A few weeks ago, I saw a docu on home births...with just the midwife and the partner present, or a girlfriend or whatever. It seemed so natural and so..."not-technical" or whatever, that it really appealed to me. And one of the women featured in the docu gave birth whith her first kid present - which also seemed stunningly natural and good and "right".
What do you gals who've been through births think about all this? And what about those who'll be going through them soon?

Anyway, I guess I'm just not going to be the type for a "crowd birth".....

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I don't think I'd be one for a crowd birth either. I don't think I'd want anyone there besides my boyfriend, and I guess those medical people. I really want to have a home birth with a midwife and everything, but I worry... from what I hear, you need to be put on a fairly long waiting list for midwives, and we all know that conception does not always go as planned.

I know this sounds awful, but I can totally see myself refusing to go to hospital when I'm in labour. I always picture myself stubbornly pushing away by my myself in some field or on the bathroom floor.


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Well, what's the situation in other places like anyway? Over here, it's mainly midwives assisting the mother and child during the births anyway; doctors only come to the birthing room for extra checks, if there's a problem or to deliver the aneasthesia. Not that bad, I guess. - For centuries, women have handled their births with only midwifes present. Why shouldn't that be possible these days? (If it's not a high risk birth that is, and if you've had adequate pre-natal care, I mean)

Hospitals have been getting lots of competition from "free" "midwife/birth houses" in the last few years and have started to recognize that many women today want more natural less clinical births (in tubs, jacuzzis, in various positions or whatnot) and even many mainstream smalltown clinics offer these services now.

Midwife is a really really well wanted job these days, btw. Terribly hard to get a place in one of the schools.

So how's it where you are?

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Okie well I've never had a baby or anything ...

But i've always been under the impression that babies were born in a hospital. At least for the most part. I know my sister and i were born in the hospital ... I hate hospitals so i know that when i have my baby (far from now, if ever) i don't want him/her to be born in a hospital. Not that i have anything against hospitals of course ... i'm hoping to go into medicine of some kind so i have nothing against that kind of stuff ...

I just think childbirth should be done the way the family decides they want it to be done. If you want your baby born in a tub ... great ... Sit your butt in the tub and have it It shouldn't be up to someone else to tell you how your baby(ies) should be born.

Rizzo ~ I can see myself doing the same thing!! Especially if i have my mind set on having a water birth and there's no water available ... the bathroom floor is the closest thing to water i can get!! Hmm ... maybe the toilet ... ??


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Well, I'm certainly no expert in this area but here's what I do know/think...

I would much rather have a baby at home than in a hospital because I'm comfy, used to the surroundings, and won't feel so much under pressure... however a lot of people are against it because if something goes wrong, there is a technicality, you need something administered........guess where you gotta go? The hospital! There you have the doctor right on hand incase there are any problems. So, as much as I'd love to have a baby at home, I think it's much safer in the hospital... Also lilbluesmurf.. by a "water birth" you don't mean a C-section, do you? Just sitting in water? Hmm...

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when my son was born only his father and my mom was in the room. when my daughter was born only her father was in the room. i wouldnt let anyone else be in the room.

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I don't know if I would even really want my husband in the room with me. I don't want him to see me in that much pain.

On the other hand, if he were there, I could yell and scream and bite at him for contributing to the pain I was in .

As for other family members, heck no. I don't like anyone seeing me naked, giving birth (not self esteem issues, I just dont like being naked), and I especially wouldn't want my mom seeing that.

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I would definately want my husband/sig. other in the room w/ me. It's ALL his fault anyway ... LOL

Umm, a water birth and a C-section (cesarean) are two very different things. A water birth is where you (and other people, your husband, if you wish) sit in a tub or small pool and have your baby. You have to have a doctor or midwife present, of course, incase something wrong comes up, but other than that ... I think it's a great idea! A C-section is where the baby is taken from the stomach (womb, uterus) rather than having a vaginal birth. From what i hear, healing time from a C-section is long than that of a vaginal birth (also, water birth means the baby comes out vaginally)

Check out this site ... It tells a lot more about water births than i ever could I'm bored and procrastinating, so i'm just looking all over the 'net for various different things ... i'm really am learning!! Just not studying for exams I think i'll do that now (I'll try ...)
www.waterbirth.org


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In my birthing room, I only -WANTED- to have my mother and my boyfriend, a female doctor, and one nurse to help her. It ended up that my normal doctor couldn't make it (she didn't even visit me when she was making her rounds, which kinda hurt, but that's another thing all together.) so I had this male doctor with huge hands. And then he must have made some comment about the height of my cervix or something because I swear, every single med student and resident in the place had to come check me. Then my father came in the room, and he wouldn't leave. Grr. That's yet ANOTHER thing. So there was my mother, my boyfriend, my father, three nurses, two doctors, and four med students watching. And in walks my brother, then my boyfriend's sister, and another med student. And I'm NOT a people person.

Next time, I'm doing it in a birthing center. :P

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Uh, Aria, that sounds like a pretty crowded birthing room...Did they all stay all the way?? I am sure my dad would faint - back when my bro and me where born (in the seventies, that is), it simply wasn't common to be there for the birth of your kid, so he wasn't there and has therefore never seen a live birth.

And what was it like to give birth anyway? (If you don't mind telling your birthing story that is...)

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i'm planning on only having 2 people present at my labour - my boyfriend and my mom...

i DON'T want any interns poking at my cervix... and i'm hoping to make that QUITE clear

it should be exciting, though! only a few days to go until mine!

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A few days?!

I didn't know you were that far along!! Best of luck Nancy! Have you done any lamaze classes?


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Alaska - the story's at this link if you want to read it: http://aria54.tripod.com/evan.html

Pictures (not nasty bloody ones!), description (not too terribly graphic), everything. Kind of old, but I'm still proud of it.


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Aria51
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BTW, Nancy, every time I come here and don't see posts from you, I get all excited thinking you're off having your baby. Heh. Are you excited?
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Aria, thanks for the link....am really late on this one, I know, but I was offline for a while and hence lost the thread.

Thanks for sharing your birth story - it does sound really stressful and simply...uhm..difficult...(lacking words here) - the pictures are wonderful....Evan looks so beautiful on that pic on the scale - and on that photo of the two of you together, let me tell you, you look like a goddess, girl!

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Oh, and you know what - you SHOULD be proud of it!

Can't really describe what I feel when I read birth stories like yours...I keep thinking...whoa, she's already done this incredible thing I will probably do one day in the future as well: give birth to another human being and be a mother! What an amzing thing, really...

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When I have kids, I would probably just want my partner, and some close friends there (not too many). I definately plan to take full advantage of the maternity wards care. My mum stayed in a week for each of us, and told us fabulous stories of the kitchen where they could fix whatever food they wanted, when they wanted - that got me hooked. I remember when my brother was born and they brought my mum cream of brocolli soup - it smelt so yum when my dad took me home I made him make it!!!

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