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I'm having some issues with this so I'm looking for advice. I've recently met this guy he's really sweet, I like him, and he's cute too. But recently I found out that he's 16, and while I'm 16 too, he's 5 months younger and about to become a Junior, while I'm about to become a Senior, I don't care that he's five months younger, but he is only a becoming a junior. I do believe in 'Age ain't nothin but a number', but there's more to the story, and it gets complicated. Plus, I'm 5'10 and he's only 5'3.
The height difference freaks me out, I've never been with someone shorter than me.
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Really, that is a very minor age difference, and more minor the older you get. As well, age-in-years often isn't a very good measure of someone's maturity or life experience. Does he feel at your level to you in terms of those things? if so, don't sweat it.
Same really goes for height issues. People come in all shapes and sizes, and gender-specific concerns about height are pretty outdated: women who date men don't need to be shorter than their male partners. And at 5'10, which is fairly tall, chances are good in your life that you'll likely date more than one person shorter than you are, eh?
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that is hardly an age difference to worry about! my b/f is 2 yrs younger then me! and i think that if you really like him, height shouldn't matter. to me that is being really shallow
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My boyfriend is three years older than I am and going to college, while I'll be a junior in high school. Age just doesn't factor into love.
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Well, actually, it's an error to totally dismiss that age can be a major issue in certain relationships, because it very much can.
It just doesn't HAVE to, especially when you're talking about relationships right insie your peer group, rather than with substantial (read: a decade or more) differences.
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Well I realize the age difference isn't much, but 5 months doesn't worry me, him being a sophomore does though, I see how immature they all are, and in high school you do what you do to be 'cool' or what not, I'm still getting to know him, I just hope I don't decide to be with him and then find out that he really IS immature, though most males are even into thier 20's.
And in my household, all men MUST be tall. But I'm not marrying him...
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i can't say much about the height thing. it's pretty rare for a guy to be shorter than me.
as for the age thing, i don't think it's the numerical age, but as you pointed out, you are concerned about him being a hs sophomore. the big thing there is that you want someone whose life experiences might be a little better aligned with yours.
For example, i'm 23 and am in graduate school. i can't relate very well to people whose experiences are vastly different from that. meaning, i tend to socialize with people near the same age as me who have been away to college. i don't tend to have much in common with people who are much older than me who have been in the workforce ever since high school.
Looking for these qualities is a valid concern. When I was in high school, sure I was a 13-yr-old froshie with a mad crush on an 18-yr old senior. In retrospect, i realize that he and i would have had vastly different experiences and perspectives and he just wouldn't relate to me very well.
And height? well, to each their own, imho. If you have an opinion about height and other appearance attributes, then that's up to you. But to be fair, you should give the shorties a shot before you decide for sure that you only want a tall guy.
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I don't want to sound mean, but it's kinda hard here. What you are saying about "your worry about the height difference" is really shallow sounding. If you really love him, it shouldn't matter.
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quote:Originally posted by Honey-Brown: And in my household, all men MUST be tall.
It's a good thing most folks don't rely on statements like these. After all, it'd be sort of odd to hear "In my household, all women must have large breasts" or "In my household, all women must be short." Aside from the fact that such statements could potentially cut you from the potential-partner list of people you may like, they're also a really good way to miss out on different types of people whom we might actually have great potential with.
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